I know several people with genital herpes -- of both types -- who have successfully dated casually and had both long and short term relationships. The people who have been the most sucessful are those who have come to terms with what it means to be infected mentally: that it doesn't make them any less worthy or wonderful as people. (I personally have oral HSV-1 and never even think twice about kissing or engaging with oral sex with my partner of more than a year and a half, and oral HSV-1 sheds even more frequently than genital HSV-1!) It's just a risk that goes along with love and life.
Taking precautions -- like using condoms, avoiding sex during outbreaks, or even daily antiviral therapy -- goes a very, very long way toward preventing transmission to your partner. When you find a worthwhile partner, they should be able to see that this tiny risk is nothing in comparison to the possibilities that can come from a healthy, happy relationship.
If you have HSV1 genitally then you need to always wear condoms and be sure to notice if you might be 'shedding' or having an outbreak. You'll know because of itching or discomfort! If you have it orally, the same rules apply.
But what you need to do is be very upfront with anyone you kiss or engage in sexual relations with. If they like you then they won't care. In fact, they could have oral herpes and not even realize it! Very common problem.
I believe you are being realistic in these situations and your best approach is to be honest and open. Anyone who would 'reject' you for something so silly is either a) not very well informed (and you can fix that with your own research) or b) a jerk!
Hi, is your hsv1 oral or genital as you mention using a condom for prevention.