Have had 2 tests and still confused, please help!

[janny66]

I hope you can help. About 2 months ago I decided to go get tested for all the STD’s and to my surprise found out I was positive for both HSV1 + HSV2.  My HSV 1 was 2.17 and HSV 2 was 3.31.  I figured that the HSV1 would be positive because I have had several cold sores thought out the years, usually always during a cold or when I was extremely stressed out. But I have never had any vaginal outbreaks. I asked my doc if I would know if I did and she said yes, they are very painful and I would know. I have never had any.
I did some research and went on some forums and read that if the Igg is less than 3.50 for HSV2 that it can be a false positive, is that true? I also read that it is uncommon to be positive in both Hsv1 +2, is that true? So I went and got the BioKit test done a few weeks ago and it was very weak, so weak  you could barely see the dot. The Doctor that did it said that it was a “weak positive”, is that such a thing?  I found out about a week ago that a weak BioKit is usually a “negative”, is that true? It has been 2 months now and I feel like I’m back at square one, not knowing and more confused then ever.  My boyfriend has been freaked out and we haven’t been intimate since I found out 2 months ago, which I can understand but I need some kind of definite answer.  Do I have HSV2 for sure based on my two tests or should I take the Western Block test? Please help. Thank you

[justmeand6]

Hang in there.  The difference is that my husband told me long before we were intimate.  I knew and I had the choice.  I knew it was the chance I took.  We try very hard to be careful but you never know.  We are very happily married and just not interested in using condoms for the rest of our lives.  I accept that it may happen.  My anxiety comes from the unknown.  I'm always afraid every yeast infection or BV episode may be the "one".  To tell you the truth, I don't think herpes could be worse than the other two.  If my test of 2.4 is actually positive than I've already had it and honestly, that takes a little of the fear away.  

As for your relationship, if your BF loves you, you will get past it.  If not, it wasn't meant to be.  My husband and I are proof that you can have a great relationship even if you have herpes.  It is part of our relationship and we deal with it.  We have two beautiful children and I'm not even sure if I have it which means we've gone 6 years without me getting it - not using condoms or valtrex (he gets a rash from the Rx and can't take it).  Before anyone tells me how dumb that is, I am aware of the consequences.  My husband is very in tune with his outbreaks since he has had it over 10 years.  

It's scary for a partner that doesn't have it.  I think your BF should be tested and put that anxiety to rest.  Then you can move forward with your relationship.  It isn't about blame, but about understanding how to be safe.  Good luck to you.

[gracefromHHP]

You've already received advice for this on the experts forum.  Continue to follow up on there since you paid to post there - get your money's worth :)

As for your bf - if you do have hsv2, you've had it since before you met him. It wasn't an issue before and he needs to stop letting the IDEA of hsv2 in the relationship be an issue now.  Have you two discussed going to either a herpes support group meeting if there is one near you or talking to a counselor? Obviously the relationship is floudering and needs help if he's withdrawn intimacy .

grace

[janny66]

It is just so frustrating because unlike you my boyfriend won't even think about having sex with me, which i cant really blame him for but its just putting a big strain on the relationship. NOT that its all about sex but its nice to at least have the option and he said i took that away from him. After taking two different tests i am going to take the WB now, its suppose to be the best. 99% accuracy. I am not getting my hopes up but praying really hard its negative.
Maybe you can tell me how u got passed the Herpes and was still intimate with your husband? thanks

[justmeand6]

My husband has HSV-2 and was honest with me about that from day 1.  We have been together about 6 years now.  I was tested about 18 months ago when I was pregnant and my test was negative.  For as long as I can remember (way before my husband) I have battled recurrent BV and yeast infections.  I went to the doctor last week for a complete work up to try and stop the infections.  I had one about 2 weeks ago.  I have never had sores that I can tell.  I asked for a blood test for HSV-2 just to be safe.  It came back like you, a "weak" positive at 2.4.  I'm still not sure what it is I am battling.  Like you, I'm wondering if I am positive or not.