Help quantifying risk of contracting herpes giving oral sex to a woman.

[Tigerfan7777]

I very unwisely gave oral sex to a woman I met for the first time. I also had protected vaginal sex, however I did not use any protection for the oral sex. It was in a dark bedroom with covers so I could not visually see if she had an outbreak or not and I do not even know if she is a carrier of genital herpes. However, I am very afraid. I am a little afraid of the protected vaginal sex part because it was a very difficult condom to unroll and I don't think I could not roll it all the way down to the base of the penis. What scares me even more though is that I gave her oral sex with absolutely no protection. What made it still worse is that we found out afterward that she had some sort of residual menstruation going on. I am just really nervous and scared. Could a doctor or someone with expertise please discuss the likelihood of me contracting genital herpes either in my mouth and/or at the base of my penis in this scenario. I do not know anything about her past but it is reasonable to assume she might be promiscuous.

[Tigerfan7777]

Thanks both of you for the responses. This has only been about 5 days and to my knowledge I have not had any symptoms. No fever chills or blisters. There was one small thing on the base of the penis but I have had mouth cold sores and the small thing seemed more like maybe a follicle bump that had turned red.

[scottyhp]

Keep in mind asymptomatic shedding.  Herpes often spreads during asymptomatic viral shedding.

It's unlikely you would contract it during oral sex if no blisters were present.  You would typically get sick after an initial infection.  Did you get a fever or chills or blisters?  

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, the risk of contacting herpes from a one time affair with no visible sores at the time using a condom would be close to zero. Folks with sores can have unprotected contact many times and still not contract it, Many things come into play even simple things like pubic hair aides in blocking. You mention the condom half on but that still would not take away from the low risk.
Oral on the other hand (no pune intended) is most a risk for giving a penis oral where lip contact is make. Giving a female oral is much less likely risk as the tounge is involved that contains digestive saliva enzimes that are a hostel envirnment for bacterias and such.


Test only if you have a long term partner back home.

[Tigerfan7777]

Also wanted to add that I brushed my teeth just prior. I read somewhere that doing this further increases the risk of contracting diseases through oral sex.