And i totally agree with you. But you know what, life is a learning experience and ive learned the 99.99% of my worries always turn out to be just that, a worry.
I appreciate that feedback yesterday but wish I could get over the worry and wonder from waiting. I find myself keeping looking down at groin area expecting to see the start of herpes or warts. I guess this mental phobia or paranoid behavior is common in people who obviously made a mistake in their choices of partners. I'm paying for this one pretty rough mentally and I guess it's the punish,net I needed to make me better rethink my choices next time I'm in this situation to avoid all this stress and anxiety.
I can agree with that fully. In retrospect if I get through this one without my fears coming true I will chalk this up to lesson learned and thoroughly think about my choices next time.
On a side note. The CDC does not recommend testing as a norm. only to high risk groups. So meeting someone on line who states straight away that they want sex, i would consider what group they fall into before exposing myself.
I appreciate you taking the time to answer my question. It's been so long and that past experience with the hot seemed to screw my head up so bad I guess it put me in a state of paranoia. If sex is this traumatic and going to cause me this much worry I guess I need to reconsider whether I need to take part in it again or at least retire once more till I better mentally deal with the worries and such. I appreciate your time again, thank you.
Hi, with her not having any lip or genital sore your risk would be close to zero from a one time protected genital affair, as shedding does occur but not that often. Shedding rates as below"
HSV 2 genital 15-30% of days evaluated
HSV 1 genital 3-5% of days evaluated
HSV 1 oral 9-18% of days evaluated
HSV 2 oral 1% of days evaluated
The critical time is when a sore is there or about to appear, like the day after your affair. Also most often when first time symptoms appear, like flu symptoms it would be in the first week on an average and a sore would appear first.
Testing at the 8 week mark is a good indicator and 3 months for conclusive. But like i mentioned dont loose to much sleep over this.