HERPES COMMUNITY
Herpes Prevention

Herpes Prevention

I started dating my current girlfriend about 6 weeks ago and things are going very well. Before we became sexually involved she sat me down and told me she had HSV-2 and has had it for about 4 years. My initial reaction was freak out and hit the ground running but we discussed the virus for a while (on top of my own extensive research) and I became more comfortable with the situation. I dont believe that somebody should be condemned for one bad mistake they made in the past because that could have easily been me. Anyways, she assured me that her breakouts are under control (about twice a year) and that we will do everything possible to ensure that I dont get the disease. We have been having sex now for about 2-3 weeks with a condom and there have been no outbreaks on her end and no symptoms on mine. After researching into it, studies showed that transmission from a female to a male WITHOUT a condom and no outbreaks over a years time were about 4% (herpes handbook- recommended by the fantastic grace!) so I figure use of a condom greatly decreases the risk in that department. So I guess what I am asking is if there is more that we can do to make sure we keep preventing transmission and finally what is the risk of me giving her oral sex? We have refrained from that completely on both ends to date. I just assume leave it out if the risk is too great.

Thanks!
Related Discussions
4 Comments Post a Comment
Blank
Avatar_m_tn
Thank you! Those are very kind words!

I was tested for EVERYTHING this past summer- well before I began dating her. However, the more I hear about this igg test, the more I conclude that it is much more definitive and accurate? I appreciate the advice and I will look into taking this test. thanks!
Blank
101028_tn?1331600857
is your gf taking daily suppressive therapy?  that will lower your risk no matter what the sex act.

grace
Blank
Avatar_m_tn
Grace-
she isnt but she has offered to take them if it makes me feel more comfortable. However I told her that she knows her body best and feels that her healthy lifestyle has enabled her to get a grasp on it. How much would taking a suppressive reduce risk of transmission and shredding?
Blank
101028_tn?1331600857
it reduces transmission to a partner by 1/2.  

it reduces ob's by 70% so that there are less interferences with your sex life too.
Blank
Have a Herpes question?
100,000+ doctor answers
Post a Comment
To
Comment
Post A Comment
Go
Blank
Weight Tracker
Reach your weight goal faster
Start Tracking Now
MedHelp Health Answers
Submit
Top STDs Answerers
207091_tn?1337713093
Blank
auntiejessi
1306047_tn?1333247191
Blank
vandykd3
101028_tn?1331600857
Blank
gracefromHHP
PA
897535_tn?1295210035
Blank
petal130
Avatar_f_tn
Blank
mkh9
San Diego, CA
Avatar_m_tn
Blank
mnonymous
MN
RSS Expert Activity
1741471_tn?1336957856
Blank
LIVE WEBINAR TOMORROW!-SUPER BODY, ... Blank
May 22 by Michael Gonzalez-WallaceBlank
2126606_tn?1335910182
Blank
Fibromyalgia Awareness
May 11 by Clare Waismann Kavin, RASBlank
2126606_tn?1335910182
Blank
Opioid-induced hyperalgesia reduces...
May 03 by Clare Waismann Kavin, RASBlank