No sex until test results on the table and all will be revealed. Voila!
Well it is just that the answer is right there, you will confirm for sure what we have been saying.
Well hang on, surely you said no sex until test result on the table?
Well clearly he can't think too little of me/is not scared because he initiated unprotected sex with me today. To me that says he either tested positive and has been too afraid to be honest or he has done his research about genital to genital transmission being rare.
Does anyone else on here have any other advice re
There is no need to ask him to test, he carries the virus no risk. The odds that this is the case are about 1,000 times more likely than the alternatives you suggest.
I suggest that he is looking at a positive for IgG HSV1 already. Given his present mood, you'd have had a negative result thrust under your nose. He could be in the 10% of tests that don't show positive for HSV1 in which case a WB will reveal this status. The only point of doing this though would be to convince him if he needs it that he has HSV1 AND that it is therefore 'safe' for him to have unprotected sex with you.
I agree and it is very sad because I love him and it would break my heart if he had guilt so bad it caused him to lie, if that is the case. But I am just so freaked out if he really is negative because that will mean I am the one in a thousand freak autoinoculation case, and that's not a good look as far as trust.. If he is negative in 5 months I'm going to ask him to get a WB.
How have you aquired so much information about herpes?
I think he is positive and isn't coping well with the fact that he has infected you; doesn't really knowo what to do. That's a shame because if he has more information and looksk at things a bit more rationally it will help bot of you work through the emotional elements.
Oh I'm not critical of him if he had it and I wouldn't have been upset if he tested positive because he would have had no idea. Those things happen and I am open to working through that with a partner. I am upset because he is saying he's negative and he kind of ran away when I was in a panic mode over this and needed support because I was scared.
There is pretty much no question this partner is the source. But it is hard to be critical of him passing one of the world's most common viruses that he himself never asked for.
Only IgG testing has credibility. Even then HSV1 is missed in about 1 in 10 IgG tests.
There is nothing to be done or undone. I hope you're able to cope well with the infection in the shortest amount of time and join the 1 in 3 roman who have genital herpes and for most is a trivial aspect of their lives.
Yes the culture was type specific HSV1 and my IgGs which were taken 5 weeks after that swab and were positive for HSV1. Yes there was oral sex days before the outbreak, 13 days and 4 days.
My family doctor said autoinoculation or carrying the virust on my finger tips is possible but I feel like physicians have to say there is a chance even if it's slim to none. When I told my gyn APN that my partner was negative she said she was stumped and when I asked about autoinoculation she was very hesitant to say "I guess it's possible" and said she was stumped again and would consult the gyn physicia.
All I know is he said his labs were negative for HSV 1/2 but I haven't seen them...so you can imagine my shock and paranoia since he was my only sex partner in now 16 months and my only oral sex partner in 3 years. We are barely talking right now but he was supposed to show me a copy last week.
To be infected from drinks etc. would require a bizarre set of circumstances that makes it implausible.
Auto inoculation is also exceptionally rare and would require blisters and lots of rubbing to provide any pragmatic chance.
So as you can imagine, two near impossibles means an impossible. If you were infected with HSV1, you would know about it!
You cannot diagnose type with IgM, disregard that result. Was the swab test properly typed or did it come back positive for HSV? Or negative?
Your partner is overwhelmingly the source and there is a 70% chance he will have HSV1, whether he knew it or not. Although HSV2 is a possibility here still.
Was there oral sex with this partner in the days leading into the outbreak?
I mean retested my IgGs 5 weeks after, sorry
Hi, thank you for your response. Isn't autoinoculation the effect of an infection leading to an outbreak in another location? Or does that only occur when there are visible sores/blisters and during the initial OB?
I have read that it is possible to contract HSV through sharing drinks and cigarettes, and I did share some drinks the same night as well.. But I've also read that you can not...
I was diagnosed through a swab and IgM. 2 weeks prior to that my IgG was negative... I retested my IgMs about 5 weeks after the swab and am positive for HSV 1. As far as my partner, things are not great since this happened, he told me he was tested.. It was weeks ago but I have not seen his results yet.
Your mouth and genitals are independent sites of infection. An infection in one place cannot lead to an outbreak in the other.
There is no pragmatic chance of being infected with an e cigarette and no pragmatic chance of transferring using saliva in what you describe.
How have you been diagnosed with genital HSV1? The most rational explanation is that you have been infected by your partner during sex. Are you sure they have actually been tested for HSV and have negatives for IgG antibodies?
To clarify, I had sex 4 days after sharing the e-cigarette. And again, I have not had a cold sore or any symptoms near my mouth, just on my genitals.