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Herpes or paranoia?

Hello Grace,
I am really sorry for being an inconvenience, but I was wondering if you'd be able to tell me what i should do. I had unprotected sex on the 21st. We did oral as well. He had no signs of an outbreak as well. He did not ejaculate. however, he pre-cummed. I also showered a bit after as well. That night my nose was a tad runny and before I was having hot flashes and headaches. (not sure if it was due to my bc or allergies) that night i fell asleep at my cousin's house near the beach. It was very cold and i slept with my mouth open. The next day i felt tired and my throat was congested a bit and we went drinking and bike riding as well. The next day I had the chills and my throat felt more constricted  and i had a little more trouble breathing. The day after i had some back aches and sore throat, very little coughing, chills and i think a fever because i woke up in a sweat, then i slept it off with some tylenol, cough drops and some flu drinks. I then started to read up on what it could be. I'm not sure if it's herpes or some sinus infection(have a lot of the same symptoms as sinusitis)  or even the cold. I went to the doctors 2 days after that and did not have the flu or strep throat. she said it was the cold (also had post nasal drip and other cold symptoms). I got blood tested for HIV and herpes after and tested negative 11 days after swab test 4 days after. I currently get random headaches, coughing a lot with phlegm, sneezing, chest somewhat hurts, my nose somewhat runs or is extremely dry.  my eyes somewhat burn, and occasionally my skin (butt/anus, arms, shoulders, neck, and etc) and joints hurt or feel warm. As for my vagina, it feels a little weird somewhat itchy sometimes warm but i believe thats due to the dry sex/shaving/period and my anus might hurt because he almost penetrated. But there is no foul smell, discharge, or burning when i urinate. I do also have restroom problems but i seem to always do. Plus, right now my skin is really dry, so i feel like the skin is due to that as well. I have no sores or anything. I'm not sure if it's my extreme hypochondriac self again creating these symptoms (from reading all of these stories and etc) or it's really something to worry about. Thank you for your time, I really appreciate it!

sincerely,
doihaveit
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I know they say it is possible to spread herpes when the signs of an outbreak are not present yet, but if this man you had sex with had the herpes virus, he would be showing by now.  You have been tested and you came back negative, and your symptoms do not sound like herpes.  Herpes does not effect other systems in you body like many other STDs.  It only hides in the body, it only causes those nasty sores.  in some cases the sores are not as severe and some people mistaken it for some other rash or blemish.  However, your cold like symptoms sound unrelated.  Oral herpes have been nicknamed "cold sores" people when an infected person's immune system in overwhelmed with a cold, the herpes sores tend to break out.  where you have a cold now, this would be a perfect time for an outbreak.  
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Also, i think these semi burning feelings i have are due to my extreme anxiety which makes sense. Do you think I should test at 3 months? Ive also had my anal area checked and clear. Doc said it was allergies + anxiety and a cold earlier.

Oh, and if you dont mind, grace. Why did you choose PA instead of NP? I heard they are similar and I'm still at a crossroads on which I should choose.

Thanks for everything!
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and some muscle aches (very rare) Doc also said i was dehydrated when he saw the urine tests too. haven't been drinking many fluids haha because I've been too paranoid.
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update- not sure if it's due to my bathing suit bottoms/shorts/ menstrual pads but im getting a few small pimples ( looks papules and folliculitis) i'm not sure if these symptoms are the ones that follow the flu like symptoms or not. They dont itch but they kind of hurt and are red. not huge and not small. I do always get this when im on my period though which i usually assume its due to sweat,friction (which there is always) and maybe even now with stress and anxiety. I also feel that the less i think about it the burning and ache feelings seem to disappear. I'm trying my best to think rationally. Sorry for the massive blow up!
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I was also wondering, if you are having a outbreak and you get your blood tested should results be positive always?
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Bumps are pretty much gone, except for a red dot. not a scab from what it looks like. Is it normal for herpes to disappear in about a day or less?
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Everything you have said is not herpes. You don't have sex one night and wake up with an STD symptoms the next. It just doesn't work that way. It would take about a week before you say anything related to herpes. You are looking at everything real closely and noticing things that are perfectly normal. The human mind is pretty powerful and if you convince yourself you have something, your body will start to produce symptoms. All of the symptoms you mentioned NOTHING suggests herpes. All of this runny nose business and aches etc., herpes isn't your problem. What you need to do is forget about all of this and go about your normal life. You are consuming way to much time into worrying and you are worrying about something you don't have. It's not herpes!!
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