Herpes or something else too?

I was recently told had got Herpes. I have only had one outbreak, the one that they tested and confirmed to be Herpes and I havent had any problems since. I have been getting quite alot of gloopey jelly like clearish discharge not really in my underwear but when I finish on the toilet. Is this a herpes symptom or have I got something else too?

[gracefromHHP]

do you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally? what testing was done?

have you been back to be seen and tested for vaginal infections since this discharge started?

grace

[0wannabehappy0]

I dont know which one I have, it was genitally swabbed and i was tested for everytrhing else at the same time and nothing else came up.

booked another appointement now but havent got the discharge at the moment.

[gracefromHHP]

you definitely need to find out if you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally. knowing your type is important.

do you have a regular partner? if you do, have they been tested yet to know their status?

I highly recommend taking the time to read the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com. it's free to read online and is filled with terrific information for you . also the patient counseling video on the same site is also informative and worth watching too.

keep asking questions!

[0wannabehappy0]

I have been living with the same guy for a year and half and thats part of the problem now. i feel so trapped in the relationship. he had an outbreak and found out he had it way before i had any signs so of course he blamed me for giving it to him as i have had more partners than him. they couldnt check if i had herpes as i hadnt got an outbreak but tested for everything else and that was negative. then when i did get a sore they tested it and told me i had it too. we havent slept together since and the relationship is awful. i feel so trapped in the relationship as i am terrified of having to tell my next partner.

i have been reading the handbook and some of the other threads and i feel alot better as it really isnt THAT bad. and i have only had one outbreak. Its just the not knowing where it came from, wether i or someone i kissed had a coldsore, or wether its from unprotected sex or how long i have had it and potenitally shared it as theres never been any protection used for oral sex even if ive used comdoms for normal sex.

beacuse its got so awful living with my partner i have been talking alot to a guy freind of mine. he's been with a girl for 6 years, they have 2 kids, they got married just over a year ago and its was all sorted and settled and then 4months ago she decided they were going to get seperarted. its not a great position i am in and we just seem to get on and talk about it and just feel valued and have a laugh together. i am moving out from here and really want to see what happens and just be there for this other friend but i dont know what to say about this Herpes thing. its the only thing that only my partner and i have secret from anyone and its eating me up and i feel so trapped as though i have to stay with him as we cant have a sexual relationship with anyone else for the rest of our lives. but i dont want to be with him,. its not just the herpes, its just not right anymore., things changed and we need to move on and apart but i dont know how to start a new chapter. ive been so open with this friend of mine about everyting, just not mentioned the herpes and i am afraid that it will finish him off as we are so happy and valued and its a "breath of freshair" from our previos relationships. not rebound but a great companionship and we both want to be so loveing and caring and i just dont know what to do.

i am going to the doctor on monday to get re tested for everything, and find out which herpes he said i have.

[gracefromHHP]

sorry you are having to deal with so much at one time :(  doesn't make it easier to wrap your head around a herpes diagnosis.  wish you had found us when your bf was originally diagnosed - could've recommended you both get type specific herpes igg blood tests then to see who had what and you could've potentially avoided this who gave it to whom issue you are having to deal with now.  You don't have to have actual lesions present to get tested!

From the old lady been there, done that files, be careful with your other guy friend.  You are vulnerable right now ( and so is he ) and unhappy and you need time to process your relationship you are in now and deal with all the baggage from that before you even think about starting up with someone new.  the grass always looks greener elsewhere but it's still grass - needs weeded, watered and patched up in places periodically no matter who's yard it's in!  

hang in there - you will get through this! herpes is never a reason to stay in an unhappy relationship.   It's such small potatoes compared to so many other things in life.

[0wannabehappy0]

thank you grace.
when we went to the clinic they said they could only test for herpes if there was a lesion...

[Mistakeguy789]

You can ask for a herpes igg blood test.  You appear to be from the UK you may have had to pay for that out of pocket.

[0wannabehappy0]

its HSV2 genital herpes.

[Mistakeguy789]

Is that what they told you?  Or are you telling us that is what you have?

[0wannabehappy0]

i asked my partner and he said we were both tseted and diagnosed with with HSV2, at the time i didnt know there was more than one type of herpes.

[0wannabehappy0]

please can you put the shredding rate info on this post for me, i really want to work out what the risks are to any new partner. i have always used comdoms for sex other than when in a long term relationship and we have been tested but ive never used them for oral sex as didint really think about it. how i have hsv2 its going to be inperative that anyone giving me oral sex is going to need some kind of protection?

[gracefromHHP]

http://www.westoverheights.com/genital_herpes/handbook/view_the_chapters.html    the herpes handbook is a free resource with most of the info you and your partners need to know. give it a read - I think it is going to be very helpful for you. also the patient counseling video is worthwhile watching also.

call and find out how you were tested - thanks!

grace

[0wannabehappy0]

they took a swab of the 1st and only outbreak i had and tested that.

[gracefromHHP]

just call and make sure they typed it to know it's hsv2 and not just that it was hsv+ and assumed hsv2 since it's genital. best to cover your bases so you know for sure what you have for future partners.