, and he didn't seem to have any signs of an STD, but just out of curiosity, if he happened to have the herpes virus, but there was no sign of an outbreak present, and we used a condom
Here are the stats for male to female transmission rates:
MALE TO FEMALE TRANSMISSION RATES (HSV 2 ONLY STATS IS NOT APPLICABLE FOR HSV 1) If you have 100 couples where the male has HSV 2 but not the female (these figures are over a year) the odds of male to female transmission are if you do nothing (other than avoid sex when there is an outbreak) 8-10 females out of a 100 will get herpes in a year, or 8-10%. If you do go on a suppressive therapy then it drops to 4-5 females out of a 100 in a year or 4-5%, and if you use suppressive therapy and a condom the chances are 2-3 females out of a 100 will get herpes in one year, or 2-3%.
The Valtrex and transmission study stats are based on having sex 2 times/week.