Herpes type 1 and 2 -help

Dear Doctor,
I was tested for herpes last year in november and have type 1 and type. I take valtrex (500mg) daily and I get the syptoms (symptoms) every month before my period comes, even with the medice. I am now  taking 100mg to see if helps. I was also tested for all other std and I am negative. Why am I getting this breakouts every month??? .  Also, I live in totally horrified that I am going to touch a leasion and acidentally infect my three year old child. I read on different sites that herpes can be passed on on towels, by touching someone and so on. I had the itch and leasions and during pregnancy and after my child was born. I told my OBG about it and she said she did not see anything, eventhough she just looked. She failed to give me a Herpes test. Now  I live terrified that I infected my son by touching or kissing him before I found out I have herpes.
Another questions is: Can I infect my husband by kissing?? even when I do not have outbreaks on my mouth. I do not really get it often, once or twice I saw something that looked like, but was not sure.
Also, we would like to have a child, but how can I get pregnant if we always use condoms? I sound very stupid about all this, but all the information on this websites is way too confusing and my doctor says, everything is OK. And is not OK, I have herpes.

thank you.

Dalila508

[daisy315]

Do you have both HSV1 and HSV2 ??

[daisy315]

Sorry I re-read your Post and it seems you do.....
I'm afraid there is little can be done other than take Suppressive Therapy to lessen the risk of transmission to your husband,I'm sorry to hear you are having so many outbreaks and I'm not sure there is anything can be done about that,possibly over time this will lessen the longer you are on Suppressive, as far as passing it to you child is concerned it is wise not to kiss your husband or your child if you either have an outbreak or feel any tingling on your lips or mouth,the only way to try to avoid transmission is to practise good hand washing regimes,as for towels it makes good sense not to share towels with anyone during an outbreak purely for the hygeine side of it.
If you are planning to have a baby in the future you must tell your Pregnancy Care Team so that they can monitor outbreaks and make sure your baby is delivered safely as HSV2 is dangerous if an outbreak is present during delivery and in most cases a C Section would be required to safeguard the baby should this occur.

Daisy