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How is this possible??

I am married...in a polyamorous relationship. My bf is married (has infrequent sex with his wife)..i do not have sex with my husband. Me and my bf have been together for 3 years. We were all tested 2 years ago...all negative. We were all recently tested and everyones came out negative, except mine. Mine came back as 2.07Igg for herpes 2. Course, now bf thinks i cheated on him, which i didnt. Is it possible he could be a carrier of this? He is the only one ive had sex with in the last 3 years. I was negative 2 years ago. Not sure what happened in the last 2 years to change it to positive. Could it be a false positive??? He is now contemplating breaking up with me, in order to protect his wife (and himself) from getting herpes. Which is devastating to me. I understand his reluctance to staying in the relationship...but is there  a website/info that provides ways to have a successful/healthy sex life without transferring herpes to your partner that i could maybe show him? would Daily suppressive therapy help? Condoms?
On a side note, i have NEVER had a vaginal OB...however, last year sometime, i did have some little bumps on my fingers..(which i didnt think twice about, thought it was ecxema cuz it was itchy and they hurt when i itched them).which look alot like herpetic whitlow (anyone familiar with this?) Could i have gotten herpetic whitlow from shaking someones hand or touching their face?
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So the guy you're cheating on your husband with is concerned that you may be cheating on him which leads to possible concerns about him having to possibly let his wife know he's been cheating on her?!!  A tangled web, the 'polyamorous' lifestyle.

Get tested again.  There is about a 50% chance that your test was a false positive.  Then again, there is the chance that someone had contracted HSV2 just around the time you were tested which would have been a false-negative at that time.  

You could contract herpetic whitlow in a variety of ways, but it is usually related to HSV1 infection.  And regarding your vaginal outbreaks, most people don't know they are infected.  Best to get that IgG rechecked whenever you can.  

And the best way to protect a partner is with daily suppressive therapy AND condom use every time.  And that would cut his odds of contracting HSV2 from you (assuming you have it) down to 1% or 2% per 40 or 50 sexual encounters.  In other words, in a given year, his chance of contracting it from you (if you do BOTH of those things) is 1-2%.  And you will find LOTS of materials that address those figures.

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Hi, low positives are either a false positive or a recent infection. Retest now to rule out the false positive or retest in 2 months to rule out the recently acquired infection.
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So the guy you're cheating on your husband with is concerned that you may be cheating on him which leads to possible concerns about him having to possibly let his wife know he's been cheating on her?!!  A tangled web, the 'polyamorous' lifestyle.

Get tested again.  There is about a 50% chance that your test was a false positive.  Then again, there is the chance that someone had contracted HSV2 just around the time you were tested which would have been a false-negative at that time.  

You could contract herpetic whitlow in a variety of ways, but it is usually related to HSV1 infection.  And regarding your vaginal outbreaks, most people don't know they are infected.  Best to get that IgG rechecked whenever you can.  

And the best way to protect a partner is with daily suppressive therapy AND condom use every time.  And that would cut his odds of contracting HSV2 from you (assuming you have it) down to 1% or 2% per 40 or 50 sexual encounters.  In other words, in a given year, his chance of contracting it from you (if you do BOTH of those things) is 1-2%.  And you will find LOTS of materials that address those figures.

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Im NOT cheating on my husband..and my bf is not cheating on his wife...everyone knows about everyone.
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Of course, he or his wife could have contracted it outside of the relationship.  Which would mean you countracted it from him, in the last 2-4 months, thus explaining the low positive number.

See, this is where it gets complicated.  Who is HIS wife having sex with while he is having sex with you?   Best to get everyone involved tested at this point.
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His wife rarely has sex at all. She has sensory integration issues, which makes having sex impossible. She has sex with her husband only, like maybe once every other month. *hence why he has me as his gf* He is loyal to his wife, and myself.  Is it possible he could be a carrier, and still have negative results?
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Possible but not the least bit likely after a period of time.  People almost always test positive for antibodies 4 months after having contracted HSV.  Virtually everyone will test positive at 6 months.
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Well, then, i guess only thing i can do is get retested, and hope that its negative.
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It may well be.  And if it isn't, you now know how to protect future partners.  

Please let us know what you find out.  Take care.
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