Hello Terri,
I have been having sex with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We are planning to get married next year. I have NEVER cheated on him in any way - and to my knowledge, he has never cheated on me. He is the first person I have ever had unprotected sex with. A few weeks ago, I had some symptoms, and was diagnosed positive with a culture. The lab did not say which type, so I am planning on getting a blood test to determine. My boyfriend has never had any symptoms.
Needless to say, the diagnosis has hit me extremely hard. After my news, my boyfriend went to get tested for all STDs. Unfortunately, the clinic he went to did not do a blood test for herpes, so he will still need to get that done. While at this doctor's office, he told the doctor of our situation. The doctor told him there is no way he has herpes and no symptoms - that he would be having outbreaks if he had it. Then, she went on to tell him that I must have cheated on him. These comments have put doubts into his mind. It hurts to have the person I need most right now doubting me.
I have been researching as much as I can to learn about this virus, but after this doctor's advice, I wanted some things cleared up.
-Is it possible to have HSV with no symptoms? Is it common?
-Is it possible to get HSV even when wearing condoms (from my past partners)?
-Is it possible for me to have had this for years and just now have symptoms?
-Is it possible that my boyfriend just passed this to me after all this time?
-Is it possible for me to have it and my boyfriend not to (when we have been faithful)?
Thank you Terri. I'm feeling so hurt and confused.