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I'm a 26 years old woman, married with 2 kids. Here is my story and please let me know as I haven't been tested yet. 9-10 d10s ago I started having some discomfort while urinating. Dr prescribed antibiotics to avoid my recurrent kidney infection. I constantly check my lady parts and everything was as usual. On my 2nd day in the meds I noticed 3 bumps that where too small to even look like pimples and all scattered in my labia minora and none of it close enough to look like anything I should have worried about. The 3rd day bumps looked like pimples "that arent ready to be squeezed". I had this horrible pain while urinating and because I am an EMT I went straight to STI info looking for something similar to my situation. None of the pictures looked alike. At this point the pimples where like growing by the second and spreading by the day. I had no secretion and no discharge. Pimples developed into sores and sores now where well lets not describe everything you guys know what they look like. Well I went to e.r. because to this point the pain was like something I had never experienced before, not even during labor. I couldnt sit, lay down, sleep, pee, poop, take baths, walk and I have not tried anything edible for 3 days now, just liquids. Dr gave me acyclovir and said take it for 10 days with a "visual diagnosis" of HSV type 2. I was shocked and actually in emotional pain. I havent shared a bed with anyone else besides my husband in almost 5 years. My std tests during pregnancies were negative. My last test was 2years ago and because I still have the same relationship I just decided to not get them yearly. Next day after the e.r trip and also the first day taking Acyclovir was hell. A freaking horrible, disgusting and painful hell! Nobody ever mentioned something like this could hurt so much. I couldnt even think of touching down there because it looked absolutely contagious and effectively after dr touching, he actually spread the sores some more and now its outside too and even though those dont hurt, the sores in the labia minora feel like someone ripped me open and poured vinegar in my vagina. My husband cried with me, got mad by my side and even though he needed his space to think because he is 100% sure he hasnt been with anyone else either. I'm sure he hasnt. He is always home and we all go out together. Always. He has no symptoms or well he had a pimple in his glande but it went away in a week and I just trust his word. Well... these last 2 days I have been on acyclovir, I have been miserable, in more pain than the day before and absolutely scared of tomorrow since it brings more pain. I now have to pee backwards, use gloves to clean my hooha because the discharge is all over and I do not know if the vaginal discharge is what spreads the sores or if it is the secretion from the sores(let me know)... I pat dry and being honest I havent used any soap doen there since it became so painful. Judge me all you want but Im new to this and I dont know much about how to manage pain and the situation. I know I have to wash my hands after touching down there even if I dont have direct contact with the sores, I clean the toilet seat with clorox. I even wash my undies in one load alone. I have a specific glass that only I use. I havent been as close to my kids as I was before getting the visual diagnosis that I know isnt a 100% but dr said he was about 90% sure it was that. Today is day 9 (if Im not mistaken) since the first symptom and the shooting pain in my nerves is keeping me from walking straight, sitting straight and I cant even talk like a normal person, vaginal discharge has increased a 100% it looks like a period but white and smelly instead. I do not know how I got this and at this point I do not care. My husband knows about it and there is nothing I/we can do to change this. The only thing that we know is that all info says that the first outbreak mostly occurs in the first 90 days top and the only place that I have been that someone besides my husband touched my vagina was an OB in the hospital, 2 E.R. residents and 2 ultrasound technicians, last may during a pregnancy loss and hospital restrooms. Anyways... I can live with pain as long as it doesnt involve my kids. I now need to test my kids because we had been sharing bathrooms and towels and well I didnt wash my hands as much as now. I think I have said much but if someone actually reads this please share tips, experience, advice and say whatever comes to mind
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15249123 tn?1478652475
You are very welcome. Like I said do not worry about your children. They are not going to contract hsv from you.
I would still get your husband a blood test. That way you will have a better understanding of which type of hsv you have. Good luck and I sincerely hope you feel better soon
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Thank you for actually reading my very long post and sorry about that but I have so many questions. Dr didnt take a swab or blood test. He just confirmed it with a pelvic exam and the fact that he said that it was in late stage led me to believe he knew nothing about this. I was actually in the primary stage. My husband has had only 2 oral canker sores since we have been together(that I know of) my first thought was that it was hsv 1 because of those sores I've had. Dr said the only way was sex but my husband shows no symptoms, thankfully because the pain I'm in is something else and I wouldnt wish this to the devil. As for my kids well since I do not know how I got it and never will, I am a clorox fan now... Just in case! ;) thanks a lot!!
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15249123 tn?1478652475
Sorry to hear about your trouble.  I will break this down so you can better understand what's going on. First it does indeed sound like this is a very painful primary outbreak. That means you have recently acquired the infection. Within the last two weeks. Probably within the last week. I would have your husband get a blood test for hsv. Did your Dr swab the lesions to find out if it's hsv1 or hsv2.
The fact that you just acquired hsv absolutely does not mean any infidelity. Let's say your husband has hsv2 and has no idea because he never has any symptoms. This happens. Some couples can go there entire relationship without passing the virus to the uninfected partner.
Now let's say your husband has hsv1 in the former of an oral infection. This is very common as most of the adult population has it. He could have given it to you through oral sex. Very common!! Judging by your nasty painful outbreak it is very possible you have hsv1. Hsv1 primary genital outbreaks can be severe. Good news for hsv2 is it has very few future outbreaks and some women never get another.

As far as your children are concerned. Don't panic. It's called a sexually transmitted infection for a reason. You won't pass it to them. Not through a towel or anything else.

Does you husband get cold sores? If not have him take a blood test and find out what's going on.
I wish you the best of luck.
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