I think I might be slightly paranoid.. but

[stacylee386]

3-4 months ago, when I wasn't with my boyfriend, he had sex with a girl without a condom. He got tested (not for herpes) and he was negative for everything. But ever since I've been super paranoid. For example, I'd make him wash his hands before he fingers me (we don't do oral anymore) and so on. Now.. my greatest concern is that couple nights ago when I was giving him a hand job, his penis touched his shirt... and then after that was done before he was going to finger.. me he touched his shirt and then did it.. could that pass me herpes (IF HE HAD IT) that way?

Another scenario is that while I was giving him a handjob and he was fingering me.. at the same time (nothing touched I made sure of it), but when the precum started to come out of him.. i'm worried that a tiny splash could of jumped on my vagina.. like I know it didn't but what id a TINY one did?? could I have anything?!
Please help me out.. this is so stressful, tell me if i am at risk or anything.
It would mean a lot.. thank you

[dpe65]

well i dont know too much but i know a little..i know the only way you can contract herpes is from skin to skin where your actually touching the sore, can also be passed even if the person is not having an outbreak at all or seems to be..as for the precum no i dont think it is possible to get it this way, other std"s yes. the best thing to do is for you to stop having sex or whatever is causing you to be anxious and to both get checked.

hope it helps..

[gracefromHHP]

At this point I recommend that since he wasn't tested for herpes, you both go and get type specific herpes igg blood tests to see who has what ( odds are you were never tested either so go together ). A one time encounter, even unprotected is  very low risk for herpes transmission.   If he also tests negative for herpes you have 2 choices, get over your paranoia that because he had sex with someone else he had to have picked up something and will give it to you and go back to your regular sex life or 2, decide you can't deal with him having had sex with someone else and end the relationship. Continuing on as you are, limiting sexual contact even though he's been tested for the most common std he could've picked up ( chlamydia ) obviously isn't working for you since you are still so anxious about continuing to have sex with him.  How could you possibly be enjoying your relationship if you are worrying over his penis touching his clothing and then he touched his shirt before touching you????

It's just my 2 cents obviously.

grace