IgM Positive - IgG Negative

First, thank you for taking the time to review my questions.  I have read so many articles online and most seem consistent, but lacking the information for me to fully grasp the state of my situation.  

I have entered into a relationship with a girl and we have been having sex exclusively (almost daily) for a little over three months now.  Just last week, she switched to a new gynecologist for her annual pap and during this visit it was recommended that she take a full round of tests.  She is a nurse and felt this was a sensible precaution.  Her HSV-1 and HSV-2 IgG results came back Positive.  She has not shown any symptoms and she says she cannot remember having any except maybe a breakout she had over 13 years ago.  At that time, she says it was never tested so she did not know if it was a symptom and since it never happened again, she didn't think about it.

She explained the situation to me on Monday, so I had my tests performed the next day.  On Thursday(today), my HSV-1 and HSV-2 IgG returned negative, but the IgM HSV-1/HSV-2 returned positive.  I have not had any symptoms to date.  I have heard that the IgM is unreliable and often returns false positives.  I have also read that it takes sometimes up to three months for the antibodies to form and show up in an IgG test.  

Since we have been together for over three months, I feel led to think that the antibodies would have formed by this time.  Is it possible that it took a while before I contracted the virus?  Is it possible that I have not contracted the virus at all?  Can you tell me when it would be appropriate to have a follow-up IgG test for confirmation done?

Thank you again for your help!!!  This has been a difficult time for me and I am grateful that you take time from your personal lives to offer this service.  Thank you!

[gracefromHHP]

I can best help if your gf gets the results of her blood testing for you to post here so that I can see if she was properly tested and if she needs any additional confirmatory testing done. there are some false positive issues so seeing her results will help me guide her with her part of all of this.

absolutely no reason to assume that you would've contracted genital herpes by now since you've been having sex for a few months together. It really isn't that easy to transmit.  At this point, completely disregard your igm results. As you've already found out it's a poor test in general and can't be used to confirm infection with hsv.  If you are going to stay in this relationship, I recommend not testing with the igg any more often than yearly if you want to unless you develop obvious symptoms, then at that time go to be seen.  You are far more likely NOT to contract hsv than you are to contract it.

The free herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com is a terrific resource for the both of you. If you don't mind spending money, Terri Warren's new book " the good news about the bad news" is awesome and well worth spending money on.  

After you've both read the handbook, discuss together what precautions you want to take, if any, at this point. Keep asking questions as you have them :)

grace