Is this herpes??

[worried73090]

okay... so I am married and my  husband and I went through a separation. i ended up sleeping with another man during this time. i have not had sex with this other guy in 6 months. and my husband swears he has not done anything with another person! however, when I went to get my annual last month i got checked to any stds. they told me everything came back normal. but i had a bacterial infection and gave me some antibiotics. so i went on about my life. last week i found 2 months near my vaginal area. i thought they were just ingrown hairs (i get them daily) just in a different area. I do not have any unusual discharge and what I do have does not smell. I called the dr to get her opinion she said they they failed to tell me i was exposed to herpes. so i freaked! I am unable to get to a dr for a while to check them out due to financial reasons. the guy i was with 6 months ago is one of my best friends and he was never exposed. meaning what ever i was exposed to came from my husband. the bumps are not ***** or blister like. it is just like a bump in my skin. almost like it could be an ingrown hair but it is too low for me to see myself. my husband has not had any unusal bumps that i am aware of. and i realized yesterday i forgot about my medicine completely for the infection. could this be herpes??? thanks

[gracefromHHP]

I think you need to see a dermatologist to get a better plan for keeping the skin in your genital area healthier in general. rashes all the time aren't all that attractive.  If you normally get rashes from shaving, consider a different hair removal method.  You can have laser hair removal done in a few sessions to take care of most of the hair in the genital area where you don't want it ( like sticking out of your panties so that you look like grandma....he he he ).  You can then trim the rest of your pubic hair low instead of shaving it to prevent rashes and ingrown hairs.  Less time shaving too when all you have to do is trim some hair every couple of weeks instead of shaving it off every couple of days and putting up with that itch as it grows back.  

Odds are if you and hubby have been together any length of time that he already has hsv1 orally himself. You can ask him to get tested so that you two know if you have to worry about your hsv1 or not. most adults have it but most don't get obvious cold sores to know it.

grace

[worried73090]

Sorry I have taken so long to reply. I called and spoke to my Dr. instead of a nurse. She said I tested positve to HSV1 not 2. Then the next day of course a cold sore popped up. She said it sounded like it was only a few inflamed hair folicles. Howeverm i looked last ngiht and there were some hairs in them and I then notices I had another bump... not where hair grows but on the very exterier of my vagina. She said I tested neg for everything else! However, she also said they tested me only for previous exposer for the simple fact that I had had sex with the other guy in April. She said that it did not test previous exposer. These bumps do not look like blisters. They dont really pop. They do not hurt they do not itch. I do have itching but it is from where my hair grows back. I do have discharge but it is only the normal discharge nothing different than what i have had for years. I do not want to go back to the dr bc if it do have something that means for sure it is from my husband. My husband will not have sex with me right now bc i have a cold sore and he is a strange person. normally I would just check him out then but hewont let me near him bc "i have herpes onmy face" or w/e do these bumps sound like and STD?

[gracefromHHP]

no idea what vaginal std test you had done but unless you had an active hsv2 ob at the time, it won't come back as + for herpes!!

Call and get the blood test results so I can help you more.  They can read you the results over the phone - no need to go in and be seen.  

grace

[worried73090]

thank you for your responce btw!!!

[worried73090]

They said my blood test came back positive to herpes but my vaginal std test did not. that it showed i only was exposed. that i did not have herpes at that moment. every time i call up there they keep telling me i just need to come in but i can not come it right now. would i not be able to tell if it was herpes by the look?

[gracefromHHP]

so what testing did you have done?  

There's no such thing as just being exposed to herpes - you either have it or you don't.  

At this point, if you had a blood test done, if you can call and get the results and post them here I can better help you. all I need to see are the actual numeric results - ie hsv1 igg 4.5 and hsv2 igg 4.3 or whatever they are.  Also your former partner and your husband both need type specific herpes igg blood tests done too.

If you are having ingrown hairs daily, you need to see a dermatologist. They can help you figure out if it's really ingrown hairs, irritation, infection etc and help you come up with a plan to stop it.

grace