JUST HAD THE TALK!!

Ok so I just had the talk with the guy I've been talking to for 2 months today. From the very first time we started talking and up until the point I finally told him(today) I was dreading the moment and also worrying about his reaction to it. A couple of days ago, I decided I was going to tell him through email but it just didn't end up that way because he was always away from a computer to even read it and I did not want him to read it on his phone.

Moving on...The conversation went something like this:

Me: "Ok so I have a skin condition"
Him:"What kind of skin condition?"
Me:"Herpes...but it's not the kind that you think(Why I said this? I don't know)". I have "HSV1 downthere." "What do you know about it?"
Him: "Oh wel....l I know that there's 2 types"
Me:"Yeah there is"

And from there on, he told me a bit of what he knew about it(which was not much) and I just told him about all that I knew. BUT, the most amazing part of this is that HE HAS IT TOO, but on his lips(HE JUST DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS HERPES). He spoke about how he would get these bumps in the same place around his mouth area (and his face is as clear as a baby's bottom every time I see him). So I said "So you have herpes?" But he's not quite sure if it's herpes or pimples. He even went on to say "I'm convinced EVERYONE has thing one way or the other." All I told him was that he should get tested and see first( he did NOT know that the standard STD testing does not include herpes testing). Could he have it?

When telling, I spoke more about how I got it and the transmission rates. I emphasized how he should really do some research on his own about it and he agreed. When describing everything, I did not use the words like "incurable"(I'm pretty sure he knows this--but regardless, that's why I want him to do some research) or the words like "disgusting". I just flat out, with as much confidence I could conjure up, and said it.

What was so amazing about all of this was how he reacted. He said "It's not a big deal to me, it's not like you're going to die from it. And the fact that you said you've never had an outbreak in 3 years, it's nothing. You may never have another one". AMAZING. I absolutely DID NOT think he was going to react so calmly due to the fact that he talks about sex so much and about how much he loves it. I guess I was wrong.

I thought I'd leave the whole I've slept with 2 guys in the past without telling them story for later (or do you guys think that's not quite any of his business?)

We were planning to meet tomorrow and I thought it was going to be off due to the "talk" but all he said was "So we're still meeting tomorrow?". Of course we are.

I couldn't be happier :).

[gracefromHHP]

GREAT news :)  Glad you finally had "the talk" and can move forward now :)

grace

[gracefromHHP]

GREAT news :)  Glad you finally had "the talk" and can move forward now :)

grace