I have a few questions, but a little history first. I have been married to my husband for 16 years and with him for over 20. I believe that we have both been faithful to each other in that time. Recently, I went to the doctor and was diagnosed with shingles in my genital area. My doctor did take a swab telling me the only other thing she could think I might have was herpes. Neither the doctor (whom I’ve seen for over 20 years) nor I thought anything about it; I even called my husband and said jokingly “Do you have anything to tell me?” It was all forgotten until several days later I received the news that the swab had come back positive for herpes. I actually responded, “That’s impossible!” After a lengthy conversation with my doctor, my husband and I have realized that he has had oral herpes for some time. I never realized that cold sores were a form of herpes. At 49, I feel kind of stupid for not realizing that before.
So, now I’m dealing with the reality of herpes and have a lot of questions. I found the Herpes Handbook and have read through it quickly, but still have some questions. My doctor has told us that it really doesn’t matter which virus it is, 1 or 2; we have it now and we need to deal with it. I’ve read that it is important to have a blood test and find out which it is, but I don’t know why it’s important. Can anyone tell me? Also, what is all the pain that I’m feeling and what is the best way to deal with it? From the waist to my thighs I just hurt. I guess the real question is how does this affect our sex life…physically and emotionally? I’m not sure if anyone can answer the last one.