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I contracted HSV2 from my ex. I have been single for 3 years.  I have met someone I like. He has asked me out, and I know if I go it will lead to more. I am ashamed.. although I know it is common. ..still.  How do I tell someone I am HSV2 posotive? maybe I should just continue to stay single? I feel like my life is over.
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The same thing happened to me. When the final confirmatory testing came in I was terrified  and new I had to accept it.  I had also met a very nice man.  We were just friends, but we both developed feelings for each other, so eventually I had to tell him. I was terrified.  I didn't feel like I deserved him, and to my surprise he was very supportive and he wanted to be with me. Interestingly enough he knew someone who he was very close to, who also contracted hsv2 from an ex. Now half a year later, I am crazy in love with him. Don't lose hope. Have faith. Be honest.  and who ever you meet take things slow. It's okay to be friends and get to know the person.  I hope this helps.
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Genital herpes is never a reason to stay single!! You can get the risk to a male partner down to 99% likely each year he won't contract hsv2 from you. That is about as good as it gets!!

So what do you do? This new relationship is WAY more than you confessing that you have hsv2. it's about discussing std testing,past std infections, and hpv vaccinations as well as birth control and condom use. It's a discussion you should have with every single partner! I'd have a discussion with your partner and ask if they've had their hpv vaccines ( and if you have had yours ) as well as when they were tested for stds and which stds after their last relationship. Most people do not get properly tested and most people do not get full std testing done so these are important questions to ask. It's also important to know if a partner typically uses condoms or not too. If you both realize you need more std testing done, seek it out before you start being intimate so all your bases are covered. Once you get to the part where you need to disclose your hsv2 status , just tell your partner that you know you have it and ask what they know about it. Be prepared with simple facts like what precautions you plan to take to reduce his risk and how by you being on daily suppressive therapy with valtrex , using condoms, and avoiding sex whenever you have anything going on genitally, reduces his risk to just 1%/year. The free herpes handbook (google it ) is a terrific resource for you both too.

Good luck with your new partner!!

grace

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Good luck:)
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if he really likes you he'll accept you, having hsv2 isnt life threatening just a skin condition, don't ever give up on life, because you're alive when i was diagnosed with hsv1 i thought the same thing that my life was over i shut myself completely from the world i said i will never date again 7 years have passed and im ok:) give life a second chance, because it will too give you a second chance :)
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