Suppressive therapy alone is significantly effective. It reduces viral shedding by 80-90% and reduces ob's by 70% on average. Based on the below data, there a 98% chance annually he WON'T get it - so no need to be "really worried" :-)
has HSV2 but not the male (these figures are over a year) the odds of female to male transmission are, if you do nothing other than avoid sex during an outbreak, 4 men out of a 100 will get herpes in a year, or 4%. If you do go on a suppressive therapy then it drops to 2 men out of a 100 in a year, or 2%. And if you use suppressive and a condom the chances are 1 man out of a 100 will get herpes in one year or 1%.
The Valtrex and transmission study stats are based on having sex 2 times/week.