If I had to guess, I would say your wife has had HSV 2 for a while. But only time will tell if you contracted HSV 2 from the sex worker.
Why did you have an HSV test four months ago?
The contact that you describe with your wife, a small kiss on the buttocks, seems to me to be extremely unlikely to transmit HSV to her, if you actually have it. the buttocks skin is thicker and unless there was broken skin there, very unlikely to be penetrated by the herpes virus.
If your wife had sex partners other than your at any point in her life, she could have contracted herpes a long time ago.
If you are negative for HSV 2 at 6 weeks post contact with very minimal antiviral therapy, I think it is unlikely that you have contracted HSV 2. Please don't take any more herpes medicine at all until or if you plan to test again at a later date.
I understand that you are very concerned that you are infectious to others, but honestly, I doubt that. You'll just have to wait until more time has passed to know for certain.
Terri
OK. No meds until final testing.
You've made an error. It's done, you can't go back and change it and guilt and fear won't make it better. They will only make you farther away from those you love. Regret is a better emotion for this, I think, as it confirms that you would like to do things differently in the future but doesn't absorb you in your own emotions so much that it takes you away from your family emotionally.
I would encourage you to focus on THEM now, not you. Be as loving as you know how. Your wife might wonder what's up, but do it anyway ;-).
Terri
Dear Terri
Thank you so much for your reply. The stupidity of my selfish action haunts me each and every day. The worry I have for my family is now my biggest concern. I am very scared and in a very lonely place.
Irrespective of my final status, your prompt reply is very comforting. I shall stay off any anti-viral medication until I have concluded further tests.