Oral Herpes Genitally precaution

I recently got out of a very draining and abusive relationship, I stayed with my partner because I was diagnosed with Oral herpes, genitally which I got from him and was too afraid of rejection from someone else or passing it on to someone else. Then I met someone who was very open and eventually told him what happend. He is very accepting however he is very nervous which is very reasonable. Upon my doctors visit she did not have much advice to offer me but to use condoms however I have  a couple of questions. I was diagnosed with oral herpes in April of 2009 and since then that has been my only outbreak, it is oral herpes genitally which they say is more likely to have less outbreaks. However I need advice on the precautions to take, how safe is sex with and without a condom, is oral sex totally out of the question, is it more likely he will catch it orally if so, is there anyway things can work out or should I just leave him alone, because of the fear of him contracting it? Please help any facts details answers will be helpful. By the way what are the odds of me shedding doing to the type and the symptoms I've had. Thank you so much.

[waterwater]

has your partner been tested to see if he already has hsv type 1?

[gracefromHHP]

you don't have oral herpes genitally, you have hsv1 genitally. Either type can infect either location.   were you originally diagnosed by a lesion culture that was + for hsv1?

certainly your partner needs tested to know his own status so that you can  make educated decisions about what precautions to take. Assume nothing about his hsv1 or hsv2 status.

Hsv1 genitally tends not to reoccur very often and it also doesn't shed much. You can transmit it through sex but the risk of such is fairly low.   We don't have stats for transmission because it doesn't happen very often but it's certainly worth talking about and taking precautions for.

grace

[RestlessBeauty]

No he has not been tested, he is going to be soon. Assuming that he is negative, what are the proper precautions to take? When it comes to oral sex being that I have hsv1 is it more risky for him to perform oral sex on me?

[RestlessBeauty]

And yes I was diagnosed positive for hsv1 by a lesion culture.

[RestlessBeauty]

I am just really nervous I dont know if I should be with him or leave him alone, he is very genuinely caring and wants to be with me, but sometimes he talks about putting oils on me, and wrapping hisself up if he has too, hes reading all these things about oils on the area that will reduce it, he's terrified of shedding and I dont know if this is going to be comfortable for me, I know he has everyright to be paranoid. However I am really scared of having to be investigated or something everytime before sex, are all these precautions so as the oils neccesary?

[gracefromHHP]

no, hsv1 isn't more likely to be transmitted to the oral area just because that's the place it prefers. It doesn't shed much at all to be transmitted to any location.

what oils?

[RestlessBeauty]

it was  tree oil or something like that.Not exactly sure, do you know of any precautions.

[gracefromHHP]

you can use tea tree oil ( diluted ) to treat the symptoms of active lesions but it's not something to use routinely or anything.  

[RestlessBeauty]

Thankyou so much for your answers, you were much more help then my GYN and I genuinely am very greatful that people like you take the time out to answer our worrysome questions on here =)