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Oral sex - Herpes transmission
Hi, I was sadly diagnosed with hsv 2 in July 2016.
Recently I have started seeing a new guy. I have so far avoided any penetrative sex, while I pluck up the courage to tell him my diagnosis first. However, in a moment of weakness at the weekend I gave him unprotected oral sex.
I have only ever had ob in my genital region and have begun taking suppressive treatment.
I'm pretty devastated with myself and am panicking that I could have unknowingly passed it on to this lovely guy, as I never considered previously it was possible to do so.
Any advice is welcome, especially if it helps with the anxiety. I've done some googling and the stigma and harshness of some of the posts have only made things worse.
(P.s I know it was a stupid thing to do in hindsight)
Recently I have started seeing a new guy. I have so far avoided any penetrative sex, while I pluck up the courage to tell him my diagnosis first. However, in a moment of weakness at the weekend I gave him unprotected oral sex.
I have only ever had ob in my genital region and have begun taking suppressive treatment.
I'm pretty devastated with myself and am panicking that I could have unknowingly passed it on to this lovely guy, as I never considered previously it was possible to do so.
Any advice is welcome, especially if it helps with the anxiety. I've done some googling and the stigma and harshness of some of the posts have only made things worse.
(P.s I know it was a stupid thing to do in hindsight)
I am sorry to hear that. Keep your chin up and you willl find what you're looking for.
Unfortunately he decided it was something he couldn't see passed. That he would spend all his time worrying about it. I'm pretty cut up about it and will probably stay clear of the dating scene for a while. But onwards and upwards x
I hope he comes around and sees that it's not a huge issue. You absolutely did the right thing and I am proud of you because that is not an easy conversation!!
If it doesn't work out just remember there are plenty of people that are not as concerned and plenty of people with hsv2. I know you feel kicked in the gut and alone but believe me you are not.
If it doesn't work out just remember there are plenty of people that are not as concerned and plenty of people with hsv2. I know you feel kicked in the gut and alone but believe me you are not.
The conversation came around naturally and I finally told him. He took it ok and was very understanding and supportive at first. However, has mentioned 'nipping it in the bud', in relation to us seeing either other. Safe to say I'm a bit gutted but I take some solace in knowing I did the right thing by telling him.
There is a ton of mis info or info taken out of context out there. Good luck and we are here if you need us.
Thank you, that's really put my mind at ease. I found a lot of conflicting information on the internet.
Now to pluck up the courage to tell him.
Thank you for taking the time to reply.
Now to pluck up the courage to tell him.
Thank you for taking the time to reply.
If you only have hsv2 of the genitals and not hsv1 orally. Than there was no risk of giving him hsv from oral sex. Even if you have hsv 1 orally if you didn't have a cold sore at the time the risk is still almost zero.
Your hsv2 infection is in the genital region and not in your mouth.
Hope this helps
Your hsv2 infection is in the genital region and not in your mouth.
Hope this helps
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