Possible initial outbreak of genital herpes after 15 years

Hi, I am 37 years old. I had an intial outbreak of oral herpes 15 years ago, since then I have not had any outbreaks until recently. I was in denial because I have had impetigo four times since then and I assumed that because i had never been officially diagnosed with oral herpes that the initial must have been impetigo. During my recent oral outbreak I noticed redness on the head of my penis and now I have an inflammed urethra about 1 cm down, which is very mild in pain. Could i have genital herpes and not know it until now? I have been in a monogomous relationship with my wife for ten years and she has never had an STD. Could it be something else? Please help.
-Confused?

[gracefromHHP]

At this point it's best if you follow up on the genital symptoms properly. If you are concerned about herpes, both you and your wife should get type specific herpes igg blood tests done.

grace