Recently had sex with a partner

I am 19 ,and  had sex with a partner 5 days ago.She is a close friend of mine but we never discussed anything sexual so i dont know her status of cleanliness. We had unprotected sex in the shower and immediately afterwards my penis(uncircimsized) felt sore.The day after i began experiencing a tingling sensation on the tip of my penis and mild discomfort that lasted for about 4 days. I can hardly feel the tingling now but i still feel like something is not right and it is associated with a tingling in my left foot, if that makes any sense.I would like to clarify in this week that i have not felt any pain,had any discharge,or burning during urination or anything else than the tingling. But I did notice some redness on the rim of my head, but im not certain of these were already there or am I just now noticing things that were already there.My penis looks fine in certain lighting and sometimes i cant tell if im imaging different coloured spots that are there.I am going for a test this coming week but the anxiety is really hurting me ,as i been distancing myself from people, and I would like to know if i have anything to worry about or is this just the start of something to come.

[petal130]

None of this sounds like herpes. Tingling is associated with the herpes lesions themselves - not with herpes or with any STD. And symptoms would appear at the earliest two days after an encounter.

As to "cleanliness", herpes does not a dirty person make.

Have you or your partner ever been tested to know your herpes status? Testing now will only tell you of your status prior to this sexual encounter.

Aside from that, I'd get the magnifying glass out of your lap, and of course see your provider if you feel you are truly experiencing symptoms as opposed to anxiety. And for goodness sake why would you distance yourself from people? Even if you DID have genital herpes, you'd have to have sex with them to transmit it!

[Mistakeguy789]

First of all lets change some of your wording.  Having an STD/STI doesn't mean you are dirty.  It means you have a STI.  

Unprotected sex in a one time encounter is medium to low risk.  But chances she had something is low to begin with.  Unless she had any sort of symptoms chances are far lower that you got an STD including Herpes.  Not every encounter with a person whom has HSV leads to infection.

Your symptoms were brough on soon (within 24 hours) to be herpes. Chances are this is something else other then herpes.  However, you should see your doctor if you have any further sypmtoms.  The pain in your foot is something for a doctor to look into.  But chances of Herpes is low.  

You can test now but it will do nothing but give you a baseline of Negative or Positive.  You are testing too soon for this encounter and will have to repeat your testing in 16 weeks after your encounter for an accurate test.

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since the the itching stopped ,after 4 days,  i went to go see a doctor more than a week ago.I had some bloodwork done and they said i checked normal, although, a few days after the doctor visit these red "dots" about larger than the size of a the end of a needle appeared scattered on the center of my shaft right under the head,i counted about 8 of them. They soon dissapeared in 3 days. What could this mean??

[gracefromHHP]

it was too early for any herpes blood testing to be done and be accurate. did you discuss any of this with your partner to see when and if she had any testing done?  the only thing you can test for at this point accurately is gonorrhea and chlamydia. It was too early for any  other std testing to be done since your encounter was only about a month ago.

It's best if you can be seen when you have actual symptoms present. Next time these occur, try to be seen that day or the next for an exam.

this doesn't sound like a herpes issue. More like something else going on and if soap was involved with the original shower sex, that could've caused you irritation as well as depending what positions you were in in the shower too.

grace

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thank you for the prompt response grace,

i got tested for everything but herpes is what i meant,or atleast what they said. when should i herpes test and which would be most accurate?

[gracefromHHP]

syphilis is 6 weeks post encounter. hiv and herpes is 3 months post encounter. unless you have an obvious lesion to culture for hsv and syphilis, it's ok to just wait and get all your blood tests done at one time at the 3 month mark.

faster to have your partner tested and ask them to share their results with you to see if you were ever even at risk for anything.  this is a friend so just present it as, you think it was all just soap related but you are covering your bases and her sharing results with you will help you see if you need any more testing done or not.

grace

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thank you for all your help! im going to try to get my mind off everything and wait a few months.I dont think i have the courage to question her.Hopefully this isnt herpes or anything serious,but i always picture the worst anyways, i would really like to be in a long term relationship now and in this situation i cant do anything but keep someone waiting.The spots arent as red but they are not completely gone ,they dont hurt to the touch nor are filled with anything,I hope its just some infection.