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Relationship: Odds of Contracting the Virus
I had a question for the doctor or anyone else too...I have had genital herpes 2 for 8 years now (that I know of). I never had a major outbreak. On a visit to the dr. I mentioned some discomfort and what I thought was a tiny soar. They did a blood test and found the virus. I have been taking Valtrex ever since. My Question: I am in a committed (monogamous) relationship where the other person doesn't have HSV 2? I'm just wondering what the chances are that someone who doesn't have it & is willing to risk being in a relationship with me might contract it. I am worried because we had sex without a condom! It was difficult for me but I had the conversation with him about my condition. Now he is upset (w/ every right) and is doing research & getting tested. I want to know if I can offer him any comfort in this case.
Also I am curious to know how to go about having children w/ out putting my partner at great risk.
Also I am curious to know how to go about having children w/ out putting my partner at great risk.
you won't find gloom and doom around here. there's no need for it! Herpes is incredibly common and easy to reduce transmission to a partner significantly with little effort. all the advice Terri warren, Dr Hook, HHH and myself give is based on sound research and current treatment guidelines. there's never any reason to be scared about any std - being informed helps you see that :) . Usually gloom and doom sites have reason to be so - they are promoting their own agenda be it abstinence outside of marriage or to sell a product to make profit.
keep asking questions!
keep asking questions!
and yes, my partner was just tested yesterday...we are waiting for the results.
Thank you so much for the feedback. Any sage knowledge is welcome especially from anyone who has been living with the virus like I have. I felt so confident about all the info I had but since this is a new (possibly the one) relationship, I suddenly feel frightened that I may be missing something.
I apologize for not being more specific. I am a female dating a male. As for the details on the actual results since I was tested so long ago, I'm not sure about all those numbers just that I am hsv2. I will however be visiting my Dr. next week so I will make sure to ask for a reminder.
My concern is because we were not careful...and then BOOM! I had to tell him about it. Granted the circumstances probably didn't offer him any comfort. I have been taking Valtrex daily. My Dr. had informed me that when in a monogamous relationship, condoms were a choice because the odds of contracting on the medication were very slim (especially since I never had a real break out). He also mentioned that many couples who want to have children can go w/ out condoms and still not contract. I have never been the type of person to sleep around anyway.
So, I guess my question was put out there because I wanted to ensure myself that I was not missinformed. I had looked on websites before and recently have been researching again to refresh my memory. I noticed that not all sites say the same thing. Some of them make HSV sound so terrifying while others seem more comforting. Which are we to believe? I really just don't want to "ruin" anyone else's life.
I apologize for not being more specific. I am a female dating a male. As for the details on the actual results since I was tested so long ago, I'm not sure about all those numbers just that I am hsv2. I will however be visiting my Dr. next week so I will make sure to ask for a reminder.
My concern is because we were not careful...and then BOOM! I had to tell him about it. Granted the circumstances probably didn't offer him any comfort. I have been taking Valtrex daily. My Dr. had informed me that when in a monogamous relationship, condoms were a choice because the odds of contracting on the medication were very slim (especially since I never had a real break out). He also mentioned that many couples who want to have children can go w/ out condoms and still not contract. I have never been the type of person to sleep around anyway.
So, I guess my question was put out there because I wanted to ensure myself that I was not missinformed. I had looked on websites before and recently have been researching again to refresh my memory. I noticed that not all sites say the same thing. Some of them make HSV sound so terrifying while others seem more comforting. Which are we to believe? I really just don't want to "ruin" anyone else's life.
this is not the doctor's forum. you have to pay to post there.
so your partner has been tested to know their status?
if you want, I will gladly look at your own blood test results to make sure that you were properly tested when you were diagnosed too. Just post the actual results - e.g. hsv1 igg 4.9 and hsv2 igg 3.9 or whatever they are.
if you are female and have a male partner, if you did nothing but avoid sex anytime you had anything going on genitally, your male partner is 96% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. If you take daily suppressive therapy and use condoms properly in addition to the first precaution, your male partner is 99% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. Very reasonable odds without a whole heck of a lot of effort :)
the free hereps handbook at www.westoverheights.com has terrific info on herpes and pregnancy for more reading. Of course when you do get pregnant, you know where to come to ask specific questions you might have then too :)
grace
so your partner has been tested to know their status?
if you want, I will gladly look at your own blood test results to make sure that you were properly tested when you were diagnosed too. Just post the actual results - e.g. hsv1 igg 4.9 and hsv2 igg 3.9 or whatever they are.
if you are female and have a male partner, if you did nothing but avoid sex anytime you had anything going on genitally, your male partner is 96% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. If you take daily suppressive therapy and use condoms properly in addition to the first precaution, your male partner is 99% likely each year NOT to contract hsv2 from you. Very reasonable odds without a whole heck of a lot of effort :)
the free hereps handbook at www.westoverheights.com has terrific info on herpes and pregnancy for more reading. Of course when you do get pregnant, you know where to come to ask specific questions you might have then too :)
grace
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