Safer oral sex

[CD9829]

I have oral herpes and my boyfriend would like me to perform oral sex on him. We both agree that it's wise to use a condom even if I only had two outbreaks in 4/5 years and I would never do it with a visible outbreak. However, I'm still worried because some parts are not covered by the condom. What precautions shall I have about it? Can it still be transmitted if you just touch it with yout tongue and not your lips? Or shall I avoid contact with any part that it's not protected?

I posted this because I think it may be helpful for many other couples in this situation and don't want to transmit the disease to the boy/girlfriend.

[CD9829]

Thanks a lot.

But what about the areas not covered by the condom? Is it a risk to touch those parts or is it almost inexistent (of course, without a current outbreak)? If it is a risk, what can we about it?

[gracefromHHP]

He can probably get a type specific herpes igg blood test to see what his status is.

If you two are concerned about it and want to do more than just you don't perform oral sex on him when you have obvious cold sores, then yes, using a condom everytime you perform oral on him would be the best thing to do.

grace

[CD9829]

No, he has never been tested but I'm not sure what to do to get tested for herpes in my country. He doesn't remember having a cold sore but his father and sister have it.

But assuming he doesn't have it, what would be the correct precautions besides using a condom?

[gracefromHHP]

Has your bf been tested to know his own hsv status or are you both just assuming a lack of remembering cold sores on his part means he doesn't have hsv1?

grace