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Absolutely no reason to think she cheated on you. You know you are positive and in fact had other sexual partners. Of those who have genital herpes, 90% don't even know it. You fall into that percentage no doubt.
Indeed, discordant partners can go a many years, even a lifetime without transmitting herpes.
No medical risks - you both have it so nothing you have to do.
A great resource is the Herpes Handbook, here:
Yes, I'm sure of this information (it is not mine, of course). You would find this affirmed by Terri Warren (Herpes expert) as well as Dr. Hook And Handsfield on the STD/HIV expert's forum.
I've become very well read and educated about herpes since diagnosed 5 years ago. And to clarify, this forum is a community forum of all sorts of folks - but it is not the doctor's forum. You can definitely come here for solid information though; the forum herpes/STD docs are supportive and aware of those of us who post and encourage posters to seek support here.
p.s. now that being said, while I'm not a doctor, I always wanted to play one on General Hospital as a kid! :-)
If my partners first outbreak happened recently, is it likely that she caught it recently?
Is it possible to catch it from hand to genital contact?
I've never had an outbreak and she has just had her first. What is the likely recurrence for her or outbreak for me?
what testing did you have done? I'm going to assume it was a blood test so if you can get the results to post here, I can better help to make sure you were properly tested. All I need to see are the actual numeric results - e.g. hsv1 igg 6.6 and hsv2 igg 3.2 or whatever they are.
can you have hsv2 for 20+ years and not realize it? yes you can. Can it take that long to transmit it to a partner? Yes it can. Odds are that neither of you has ever been tested for herpes prior to this to know your status.
when your wife was tested, did she have a blood test too or did she have a lesion culture of active symptoms? if she had a lesion culture done, can you also have her make sure that it came back specifically as hsv2+ and not just + for herpes and assumed hsv2 since it was genital?
( will comment on your blood test results I promise you )
She had a blood test. Not really sure what here blood results were and her doctor is away next week (she won't speak to the anyone else about it). I'm not sure if it is relevant, but there were no real blisters, it was more very red and with bumps. There was also an odorless discharge. What are your thoughts on this and my results.
if she calls the clinic, one of the nurses there can read her the results for her to write down to post here. I can much better help once I see the test results - e.g. hsv1 igg 6.6 and hsv2 igg 2.3 or whatever they are.
did they test her discharge for yeast and bacterial infections too?
your hsv2 igg is a low positive and has a risk of being a false positive. it will need confirmed with further testing like a herpes WB blood test.
well usually when we talk about titer testing, it's the old fashioned way of testing for herpes that was highly inaccurate. That said, many providers still refer to igg testing as titers. gets confusing sometimes.
hers are low positives too. I recommend you both get herpes WB's done. If your providers use quest labs, it's test #34534. It's send out lab for all quest labs so they might have trouble finding the test but it's the proper test number.
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