Telling him about my herpes?

I'm a seventeen year old girl from the Scandinavia. Half a year ago i catched vaginal herpes. Never been so depressed like when I found out. I felt so dirty, and was sure nobody would want me. (Still do)
Here's the thing; There's this guy I'm seeing. He's nineteen. He is a great guy, and I think we are having something good going on. Eventually we will get intimate, and I'm not sure if I should tell him.
I'm a really laidback girl, and I'm afraid of telling him - but I'm afraid he will tell people I have herpes whenever he desides to leave me.

When you go to the same school, and he tells his mates you have herpes, you can count on other people will eventually hear about it.

And I don't want to be the herpes-girl no guy would want. I'm pretty good on the eyes, if I can say so. Guys thinks I'm beautiful, but I don't really think they care how pretty I am as long as Herpes is all they think about when they look at me.
I guess I have 4 choices:
1) Tell him, and he stays with me.
2) Tell him, he leave me - tells his friends.
3) Not telling him (taking medicine, avoid having sex during outbreaks) - and I having to always have to feel like a lying, dirty *****.
4) Come up with a dumb excuse, and leave him.

I really like him, and I want to give him a choice - like I didn't have. But I don't want to be the Herpes-girl. (If he tell people. Like he could. I never know) The word spread pretty fast around here. I live in a small town.
Please give me some advice. I know I'm young, and he's most probably not the love of my life, but I also know I can't keep my heart closed and being afraid to get feelings for a guy - for the rest of mye life.

[gracefromHHP]

let's start at the beginning :)  

How were you diagnosed as having genital herpes? Do you have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally?

do you need to talk to your partner about your herpes?  Yes you do!  You need to talk about all std's, testing and also condom use and birth control!! It's part of being sexually responsible!  should you just break things off with him so you don't have to deal with it and risk him telling other? Well of course not!!  It's just herpes! It's incredibly common and you have to deal with it dear.  When you have your "talk" with him, cover the general std's first - ask him if he gets tested and if he has any idea of what he's tested for. Ask if he's had his gardasil shots ( have you had yours? ). Ask if he always uses condoms.  talk about what birth control you plan on using. then tell him that you have private medical information you need to share with him because you care about him and that you hope he is grown up enough to realize it's not something to be shared with others.  then talk about your herpes. let him know what type you have. Let him know what his general risk of contracting it from you is. Let him know what precautions you take to keep his risk minimal ( daily suppressive therapy if you have hsv2 and condom use ).  

have you ever read the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com?  It's free and filled with terrific info for you and your partners and it also has a whole section on talking about it with others :)

keep asking questions!

grace