Virgin...With Herpes???

[kiki_10]

Okay so I have nooooooo reason to lie at all about this. I am DEF. A virgin. I've never had anal, vaginal, or oral sex in any way shape or form, but I've been getting bumps in my vaginal area for like 2 years now. Yea I know long time right? Well I'm scared to tell anyone so I'm trying to wait until I can get my own insurance. BTW I'm 19. I also don't want my family to think a certain way about me. I've looked at herpe pictures on google and they appear nothing like them. They appear maybe one to two at a time and are extremely uncomfortable. They grow, puss up, then disappear. Sometimes they are big, and sometimes they are small. They do not recur very often either. Maybe like every 3 months. I've looked to see if there where other ways of contracting herpes from anything other than sex and it was rare. Only direct contact was the main source which I've NEVER had. I'm really just hoping its just symptoms of an untreated yeast infection. I'm definitely going to see a doctor soon but if anyone can give me advice, or have had the same thing happen to you, your tips would be very much appreciative. Thanks.
                             Sincerely kiki

[meggster22]

sorry to here about you mother that is sad. im sure your aunt can help you too. i may not be as comfortable but you need that mother figure in your life. talk to her and im sure she will help if you are comfortable with it. i think everyone is right, i dont think this is something to worry about. but whom ever said that you cant catch an std with out sexual contact is wrong you can most certainly catch herpes or hiv with out sexual contact. herpes is contracted from skin to skin contact. you can get it anywhere on your body. if someone with hsv 1 kissed you on the forehead you could get it on your forehead. and if you touched the puss from those and then touched your genitals you could get it there. Just be safe and get checked out. but i dont think its much to worry about.

[gracefromHHP]

no provider will tell you this is std related. if they do, insist that they prove it because you don't get std's when you aren't having sexual contact. Unfortunately many providers assume everyone lies so make them prove it with testing if they try to tell you this is a std.

follow up on this properly and go from there :)  stop back and post about what they found so that others following your post can find out "the rest of the story" :)

grace

[Mistakeguy789]

Again this isn't herpes.  You are posting on the wrong forum at this time.

[kiki_10]

Okay and one more detail and I'm done!!! The bumps aren't really visable. It feel like its more under my skin. Then it pusses up, and slowly goes down. No red or white bumps

[kiki_10]

Thank You Grace!

You guys are really making me feel more comfortable about going to get checked. I Just didn't want to go in and actually hear a doctor say "Sorry, but you have herpes." That's my biggest fear in it all really. I would just feel like I would NEVER have a sex life. :( But thank you.

Also want to add this little fact in and it will be the last add on I think lol. Anywho I've NEVER had a cold sore before or after the bumps appeared. And no where else on my body that was in the form of a blister.

[gracefromHHP]

you know this isn't herpes going on or any other std. We call them sexually transmitted infections because they take that sort of intimate contact, of which you have had none.  

many things can cause issues like this. You can develop cysts in the genital area that can become inflammed and be very painful. You also can develop bacterial infections that cause these sorts of issues too.    Honestly this sounds nothing like a yeast infection though.  

Go and be seen the next time you have these symptoms.   You are over 14 so you actually have complete privacy even though you are still on your parents insurance.  Since you know this isn't a std related issue, no reason to fear your parents finding out you were seen anyways.  If you aren't comfortable going by yourself to have your genital area looked at and don't want to take your mom with you, take a friend. They will be up by your head to support you, not seeing your nether regions :)

grace

[kiki_10]

Thanks Meggster. Trust me its HARD but the thing is I'm ready to have sex but I won't let anyone get close to me to to fear ill give them something. Also my mom passed away when I was 15 and my dad lives in Washington DC now. I live with my uncle and aunt and I just don't feel as if I can tell them. I'm going 2 try to find a free clinic around my area though.

Also I want to add some symptoms I've been having.

I never burned when I urinate, discharge comes but not all the time, I do itch rather the bump is there or not, and there is an odor issue, and I don't have flu like symptoms either. Like I said I only get 1- 2 at a time every like 3 months. Just for an heads up for anyone else who wants to help. Thanks

                                                   Kiki

                                      

[meggster22]

first off props on the virginity thing. im 22 almost 23 and i have not had any for of sex either. From what it sounds like it could just be an untreated case of a yeast infection. but either way get checked out by a doctor. and im sure if you aproch you mother about it she will understand and take you in. if you cant talk toy our mom about that stuff who can you talk to about it? shes the only one that wont judge you... unless shes one of "those" moms. it sounds like a yeast infection which can become a big problem if you dont take care of it either but i may be wrong im not a doctor. go get checked out.