Will HSV 1 prevent HSV 2 Oral exposure?

[jpeters1]

I am HSV-1 positive and HSV-2 negative.  I have a small cold sore on the outside of my mouth just below my lip, that just came out 5 days after a one nightstand with a random girl I met at a bar,  She is in her mid 20s, and I am mid 30s.  We had protected sex, and I tried to perform oral sex on her, but she pulled me back up, so I may have been down there for 5-10 seconds.  We continued to have sex (not to completion) and stopped after 5-10 minutes as the condom started to come off (halfway up my shaft  basically).  We had aggressively made out too.

I'm nervous about the cold sore, I've been under stress at work and I do have a long term partner who I am nervous will find out somehow.  It's not the type of thing I would do, and have been regretting my actions since I left the room that night.  Could the cold sore be a result of stress and worry about the situation?  I didn't eat all the next day as I was really hung over.
My concerns are:
1) could I have contracted HSV-2 orally from my brief stint downstairs with her?
I've read on this site that sometimes the prior exposure to HSV-1 can lead to some slight resistance to HSV-2, if that is the case ...
2) would that mean I still have HSV-2 since it was trying to infect me?  
3) Would it show up on a STD test?
4) I don't see any abnormal things going on in my genitals, i.e. herpes or sores, if exposed to HSV-2 how quickly would the body react to and show signs of infection?
5) Also - I've been reading about HPV ... what is the transmission rate, and would a 25 year old already be immunized to this?

I'm deathly afraid of infecting my partner, could I get a doctor to test the cold sore to see if it is HSV-2?
I've read that I should wait 3 months to get tested, is there any rapid test?  I'm not very active with my partner, but don't want to expose her to anything, but it'll be hard to wait out 3 months (but I think I can to save the relationship, 'cause I am not going to tell her about the tryst).  

I'm praying that I am OK, and this type of thing has scared me to no end that the regret and unknown future for me and my partner is killing me.

Thanks in advance
-JP

[Fleetwood20]

Even if a person has HSV and is shedding, there is a 1% or less chance of infection in the episode.

I'd say almost no doubt you had a HSV1 outbreak.

A PCR test is for the DNA of the virus, it distinguishes type, no mistake.

[jpeters1]

Thanks Fleetwood20,

So even if the person has HSV2 it isn't definite that it would transfer to me.  She would have to be shedding to have it transfer.

I would assume that my cold sore breakout is a result of stress and not feeling well the day after (hungover and didn't eat anything the following day).

In regards to #6 - if the doctor swabs the sore, he can check if it is HSV, but would he be able to determine which version?  So essentially I don't have to wait 16 weeks?

Thanks
-JP

[Fleetwood20]

I'll have a quick go.

There is only a modest probability the partner had HSV2 in the first place.

1. 2. Most unlikely you would contract HSV2 orally. More likely you'd contract it genitally despite the condom. Both are 1 in many, many thousands chance of infection.
3. Yes a week 16 test would be conclusive for you, IgG antibodies type specific for HSV1 and HSV2.
4. Sores would appear in 2-12 days, but they don't for everyone, especially those with HSV1.
5. You would need to check with her. There are no tests for males for HPV.
6. Yes your doctor can swab the cold sore and test it for HSV using PCR. This will accurate determine type.
7. No skirting the 16 weeks.