Woman w/o STD nervous about getting one

I just met a man who was honest with me about have Herpes. He does not know what strain it is, but I am guessing type 2 from what I have read. He has had it for about 6 years or so and has been on acyclovir for years. He said that he has not had an outbreak in years, has had many partners and no one else has been infected that he knows of.

I have read that it is more likely for a man to pass it to a woman and that makes me a bit nervous. I am a 26 year old woman who does not have any STD's and I would obviously like to keep it that way. I have read many stats on the risk of spreading during "shedding" but every site has a different stat. What are the current numbers if you know?

What is the risk of having sex, WITH a condom? (the statistical chance of getting it)

What is the risk of getting herpes by giving and/or receiving oral sex from a man who has genital herpes? Again, no outbreaks for years, on preventative medication. I would like to perform oral sex on him but I want to know the risk.

He has given me oral sex and I would like to do the same for him but I am nervous about getting herpes. Maybe I am ignorant in asking all of this, but I am unclear from what I have been reading online. If he only has genital herpes can he give it to me by giving me oral sex?

Thank you for your help.

[gracefromHHP]

Well since he doesn't know if he has hsv1 or hsv2, it's his job to go and get a type specific herpes igg blood test done to see what his status is. you two can't make educated decisions about precautions until you know which type(s) he has.

You too also need testing to see what your own status is.  Odds are that even if you've had proper std testing in the past, it hasn't included herpes testing.  

if you are concerned about contracting hsv2 orally, you can perform protected oral sex on him. they make flavored condoms and also flavored lubes to help with the taste of the latex.  

the lack of ob's is actually meaningless. Not saying that to scare you, just being honest. His being on daily suppressive therapy is significantly reducing this viral shedding but not by 100%.  Shedding occurs independent of obvious lesions.  

If he takes daily suppressive therapy with valtrex ( the only herpes antiviral studied for this purpose ) and you avoid sex when he has anything going on genitally as well as use condoms, your risk is 2-3%/year on average of contracting hsv2 genitally from him. We do not have stats for oral hsv2 infections. you can contract hsv2 orally but the risk is very low. his being on suppressive therapy also lowers your risk as well as if you performed protected oral sex on him that too will reduce your risk .

grace