Worried, should I tell him...

This past July I was diagnosed with HSV-1 both orally and genitally.  My initial outbreak was serve but since then I have had no reoccurances either oral or genital that I'm aware of.  I feel that I am hyper aware and I don't think anything (ie. itching or mild irritation from masterbation (masturbation)) has been out of the norm.  This weekend I had protected sex using a condom with a new partner without telling him that I had HSV-1.  I know I was not having an outbreak either orally or genitally at the time but I did experience some abrasion during sex.  The condom stayed on the whole time during penetration and gential (genital) contact.  

What is his risk of contracting HSV-1 genitally or orally from me after this encounter?  If I am not showing any symptoms either orally or genital but recieved minor gential (genital) abrasions during sex is the virus still present on my skin and can be contracted?  How likely is female to male transmission of HSV-1 genitally?  I'm concerened and feel terrible...

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Why not get him tested??!! Its just part of a responsible sexual conversation. You will shed more the first year of infection, after that approx 3-5% of days for genital HSV-1 and 18% of days for OHSV-1. Personally I think its all about giving your partner an informed choice, not to mention I believe there are legal liabilities when you know and dont disclose. Not to be too hard on you, Im in almost the same boat at the same time, the thought of the conversation is terrifying but remember we;re lucky cause 1 in 2-3 people have the -1 virus already. WHy dont you offer to both go in and get tested for everything and then use that as a platform for a conversation after - but remember - they dont test for HSV unless you specifically ask - its not part of routine STD testing so make sure he knows to ask for it.
But you are contagious even when asymptomatic due to viral shedding.....  I think personally its really fair to send him in for testing as he may have HSV-2 or 1 and not even know it - you still want to protect yourself form getting HSV-2.... there are issues for both of you here.