could i have gotten herpes or HIV??? please help

a little over a month ago i had sex with someone i consider a high risk partner. she had been with 4 guys before me and i only found out after we had sex because i started worrying and asked her. i used a condom of course but i cant help but to be scared. she says she has nothing or has never had anything but has unprotected sex and used condoms only sometimes when she was with the other guys. im am so scared that i haven't been able to concentrate on anything but this since it happened. i was tested for gonorrhea and chlamydia but they were both negative. im am so scared of getting herpes or HIV that all i do is look up symptoms for herpes and HIV. i have not had and bumps, leisons or anything since the sex. i do feel a mild itch on my scrotum and anus but nothing hurts at all. everything looks normal. i went to planned parenthood a little after it happened and the nurse said that nothing looks like herpes and she was 99 percent sure i didnt have it. but from what i read on the internet most people are asymptomatic and have no symptoms so i was still scared. i also tried to check in my anus and noticed like a red what looks like a tear but idk what a normal anus looks like inside and when i touch inside it nothing hurts. im afraid i my be irritating it because im always checking inside it. im not gay at all but i know herpes can still get inside the anus. im gonna take a herpes blood test in june to see if i have it. Im so scared it was only just one encounter and i used protection but i could have contracted it and i feel so stupid for even having sex with her. she said she had nothing so i believed her so easily ugh im such an idiot. i cant remember if any of my body actually made contact with her besides my protected penis. i also fingered her and and masturbated with both my hands but were switching them on and off while i fingered her. i had the condom on while i was masturbating and fingering her. i did put my finger in her mouth while and then kissed her not to long after but she had no signs of blistering lips or any sign of oral herpes. i asked her and she said that she has never had a UTI or yeast infection or anything down there that would seem like herpes but she could be asymptomatic so im scared and 3 months is a long time to wait to take a blood test i feel my mind wont be eased till then. we only had sex for like 10 minutes and i went and the condoms didn't break and i went and wasehd my hands but only just ran water over them and i dont remember if it was hot or cold. i did masturbate in the bathroom a little too with my bare hands. she didnt go down on me and i didn't go down on her at all. im just so worried idk what to do. does it sound like i could have gotten herpes or HIV? i feel fine besides the mild itching but nothing else is bothering me.

[Mistakeguy789]

First off I don't know what idk is.  This is a forum where character limitations don't apply.  Thus there is no need to abbrevate words.  You can actually spell them out.  Please remember that things that are abbrevated can mean different things to to the different people reading them.  

Putting someone in a high category for having STD's just because they have sex isn't fair.  By your standards we should put you in that one as well.  STD's have nothing to do with how much sex a person has and part of the stigma around STD's is that people seem to think that if you have lot's of sex you MUST have STD's because anyone who doesn't have a lot of sexual partners can't get STD's.  Sorry that's not how the world works.  STD's are something that happen sometimes through no fault of the person aside from not seeing someone get tested and reviewing their results.  Please change your thinking and get informed about STD's.  

Now you yourself could have herpes and not even know it.  Herpes is NOT generally tested for on most STD panels and if it is maybe the testing wasn't the properly done one.  First of all you need to know your own status when dealing with herpes.  If you have ever had a cold sore in your life you have HSV-1 orally.  While not considered an STD it is considered an STD when the virus is transmitted to a persons genitals.  So look over your own testing if you don't have HSV1 igg and HSV2 igg then you didn't have the right testing.  

Next I don't know about the other STD's in more specifics but I will tell you this much... Protected sex with a condom is no risk for HIV or most of the other STD's.  Herpes is a risk because of an outbreak happening on the person and your skin coming into direct contact with the site of the outbreak.  So get HIV off your mind.  

As for herpes your risk was low since you used a condom and one time encounters generally are low risk for herpes to begin with.  You are likely right you are irritating your skin from looking at it.  At this point it is time to stop looking so much and only check yourself before bed or after a shower no more.  

Be seen within 24-48hrs if you get any symptoms by your provider if they feel it is herpes they will do a lesion culture with typing.  

[veryscared437]

Thank You very much for answering my question. i also used a spermicidal thin condom and i heard it can irritate some peoples skin and make it easier to transmit the virus. it has never irritated my skin but should i still be worried? i used two of them and checked them both for leaks after and nothing leaked. the itching has actually stopped right after i went to go buy anti itch cream. im just very paranoid maybe even a hypochondriac about the whole thing. i will never be doing this type again unless its with the girl i want to marry and we are both clean. As for herpes i have never had a cold sore in my life and i always use condoms. i have not developed any sores or anything down there and nothing hurts at all. i cant help but to think herpes is still a possibility so i will get an igg blood test in june when it hits the 3 month mark. and sorry for the confusion idk means i dont know