genital hsv1 transmission from female to male

[banika84]

I have genital hsv1 my partner does not......we fooled around last night but I told him I didn't want to have sex, I know this sounds crazy but I woke up and he was inside of me unprotected once I came to I told him to stop and he did...now I am so scared that he might contract it what are the chances that he will contract genital hsv1 from me?

[banika84]

yes we had the talk about std status he recently got checked for everything and we've had unprotected sex in the past before I was exposed to hsv.  I know for sure he is clear that's why I am so worried but I understand where you are coming from and I am mad that I was put in a compromised situation like this after I told him that I did not want to have sex...So with that said I will relax and follow your advice, thank you grace. :)

[gracefromHHP]

no his not being circumsized doesn't matter.

so  you haven't had "the talk" yet about his std status either?  I'd really being pissed if none of that happened yet and he had sex with you while you were sleeping. stop worrying about him and start worrying about yourself!!!

grace

[banika84]

Im sorry grace I have a couple more questions I am really losing sleep over this...my partner doesn't know I have hsv1 I wasn't ready to tell him that's why I wouldn't have sex with him, does it matter that he's not circumsized would that make him more vunerable to becoming infected? When I caught genital hsv1 last year it ws because the condom had ridin up and I'm really not sure if he was having an oubreak or not...I am so scared he will catch it from me as easily as I caught it I just can't believe that having unprotected sex with a hsv positive female was a low risk..have you ever known a positve genital hsv1 woman having unprotected sex not pass the disease with no sign or actual outbreak? Thank you again for your time, I'm so stressed and scared I really wish he hadn't did what he did I'm so angry @ him and myself for not telling him after the fact I'm still waiting it out and its torture!

[banika84]

Ok Grace thank you!

[gracefromHHP]

it's the direct skin on skin contact that is the issue, not your fluids.

I'd be more upset that I had told my partner no sex and he did it later on anyways while you were sleeping than I would be over the incredibly small risk of him contracting hsv1 genitally from you!!

grace

[banika84]

Thank u so much grace for your responses but I am still worried that he's going to catch it just don't know what to do.....is the virus in vaginal fluids I read that they wasn't and on a different sight I read that it is only in the genital nerves I'm confused

[gracefromHHP]

this is still incredibly low risk. you are not shedding the virus 24/7 and the odds that he came in contact with  your hsv1 genital infection shedding are very, very low.

grace

[banika84]

Yes he is negative for both oral and genital hsv

[gracefromHHP]

has your partner ever been tested to know his own status?

grace

[rapturedj]

I've heard that hsv1 is usually common amongst adults now a days since it's usually just cold sores on the lips but there has been reports of hsv1 on the genetalia now but from what I understand is that it's usually caused from oral sex when a sore is present. Unless you already have hsv1 down there than I would have to think that it is a risk he might have it now but if your only experiencing the common cold sores on the lips then I should be fine.