A little background? I got ghsv1 around 1 1/2 yrs ago via oral sex from a guy I was seeing who did NOT have a obvious cold sore at the time. Imagine my surprise!! As far as I know, my primary has been my one and only "obvious" very painful outbreak. I get irritated from time to time down below, but then I did before I got ghsv1 so its hard for me to tell if its a outbreak? No sores, just irritation. I guess you can say Im sensitive to anything...
Questions are....I have been dating a man who is aware of my status. I have been taking suppressive therapy and we have been using condoms. To his knowledge he has never had a cold sore. Anyway...he is kind of old school, in his early 50's and I have been trying to get him to get tested. Yesterday, we were together and one thing led to another :) and we started getting it on. The next thing I knew, he was on me with a smile telling me he got tested and he was positive for type 1 as well. Imagine my surprise when he then proceeded to have unprotected sex with me. Now Im scared and nervous :( . Im so afraid of hurting him by giving him what I have. I asked him afterwards when he went. He is such a private person...that he said he just went to his pcp, asked for a full physical including labs and all things sex including hiv. He said the nurse called him a little over a week later saying he was positive for herpes, that there is no way of telling when he got it. Only...he has no idea what test they did?? And I know there is no way he will call and ask. Just getting him there was HUGE. My fear is it was a IGM test. Do they still do those when asked to be tested? If it was what are the odds of a false positive? If it was the correct test, IGG type specific...what are my odds of transmitting it to him if he has oral and mine is genital? Again, I do take acyclovir twice a day everyday just in case it helps? Plus...during sex I felt irritated and even bled just a tad. I looked afterwards and cannot see anything outside or inside of me. How can I tell if irritation is anything other than just that?
OK, enough rattling. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I have been a nervous wreck since. Googling the heck out of all of this.