herpes & hpv exposure / igg test, etc.

[1stupidnite]

(I first posted this in the STDs forum before I knew there was a Herpes specific forum. Sorry about the cross-posting.)

Well, last night I did a stupid thing. I cheated (for the first and last time ever) on my wife of 10 years with someone who has been pursuing me for years. I over drank and made a very stupid and selfish decision. Besides the tremendous guilt I am feeling, I am now faced with the possibility I've exposed myself to both herpes and hpv.

Here are the specifics:
- The girl I had unprotected sex with has had herpes for 5+ years and has never had an outbreak since she was first diagnosed 5+ years ago
- She was not currently having an outbreak
- She was recently diagnosed with HPV that she got from a previous boyfriend about 3 - 6 months ago
- My wife is out of the country and will be returning in 23 days
- I know that the IgM test is worthless (after reading extensively on this forum) and...
- I know that the IgG test is the "better" test, but should be taken in approx. 3 months from my exposure
- My wife has been exposed WAY in her past (15+ years) to HPV (genital warts) before we began dating
- I cannot confess this indiscretion to my wife as I am sure it would end our marriage
- I love her very much and have made a very bad mistake and I don't want to risk her getting herpes

So, my questions are:
- When she returns, I know that she will want to make love to me. I will have been exposed for a total of 23 days at that point (too early to test for IgG). If I am showing no symptoms during the 3 months I have to wait to take the IgG test, will she be safe from getting herpes? - If she is in danger at all of contracting it, I would rather confess to her my stupid mistake and make sure I don't make love to her while I wait to be tested. So, again, the question is: Is it safe for me to make love to my wife while I wait to see (assuming I show no signs) if I have herpes?
- If my wife has been exposed to HPV in the past, will it matter that I have been recently exposed to HPV? and...
- Is a single exposure to someone HPV-positive enough of a guarantee that I will pass this off to my wife as well?

I appreciate any answers you can give me.

Thanks (in advance),
- 1stupidnite

[1stupidnite]

Thanks a lot. You've helped put my mind at ease. This forum is a great resource. I appreciate all of you that volunteer to answer questions.

[1stupidnite]

So... as to my original question: Will I be putting my wife in danger of contracting herpes during the 3 months before the IgG test? (if I show no outward signs of herpes)?

[1stupidnite]

Thanks for the reply gracefromHHP. I have read a lot of your previous posts here. You are very helpful. Thank your for taking time out to answer my questions.

She did pursue testing and has hsv2 genitally. I believe she also takes a daily suppressive therapy as well ( I remember her mentioning that she took "something" religiously ).

As for the hpv, she only recently was diagnosed maybe a month ago when she had her annual, so she has no obvious warts - just the test came back showing she has it.

[gracefromHHP]

the risk from a one time encounter in general is incredibly low for herpes. ask the gal in question if she ever pursued testing to know if she has hsv1 or hsv2 genitally. also ask her if she takes daily suppressive therapy or not.  

as far as hpv, I'm assuming you are referring to she has obvious genital warts?  if so, has she had them removed?

grace