herpes

my husand was diagnosed with hsv-2 3days ago; we have been married for 10 years. my husand and i both have no symptoms. i was tested for HSV 1 and 2 back in 2002  for routine check because i was pregnant; and it was negative. is it possible for my husband to had this virus before we meet and never showed symptoms, and it was not passed on to me in 2002. my husband hsv 1gg level was 6.31. also, is this virus only transmitted when the person has symptoms,

[gracefromHHP]

what was his hsv2 igg? you only listed his hsv1 igg.

odds are that he's never been tested before.

have you checked to be sure you were tested in 2002 too? most obgyn's don't include herpes testing as part of their routine prenatal blood work.

grace

[candy824]

grace,
Sorry his HSV 2 was 6.31 his HSV 1 was negative. i was tested for both HSV 1and 2 back in 2002 and i have my reuslts and they were negative. matter of fact ,i was tested also in 1997 and 2002.

[gracefromHHP]

ok thanks for the clarification :)


Could he have had herpes before meeting you and never knew it? He sure could've . as I've already said, odds are he was never tested before to know his status.

The herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com is a free and terrific resource if you haven't seen it already.

grace

[candy824]

Grace thanks.  
o.k,   I went to the doctor after I found out my husband came back positive for HSV-2, after talking to my dr. she only tested me for HSV-2 back in 2002 and it was negative. my test results:  HSV-1 was (7.01 IGG) and my HSV-2 was negative. (0.18 IGG)

My husand started to have a itch and bumps appear on his penis about 3days ago. he went back to the doctors and the Dr. said it was herpes, and now he is on medications.
ACYCLOVIR.

IM VERY SPEECHLESS;after all this years; I DON'T KNOW WANT TO SAY OR DO. I DON'T KNOW WHERE TO GO FROM HERE.  I don't want to get infected with the HSV-2 virus .Also,I don't want to infect my kids with the HSV-1 virus also. (my kids are ages 12 and 5)

what can i do to help prevent the transmission?
Is it possible i got the virus from my husband and never realized it all these years.? because back in 1997 when i had my daughter i was tested for all the STD,

how can this affect our marriage and sex life? should my husband and I see an infectious disease? Doctor.

[candy824]

sorry, i failed to mention, I was retested when i went to the doctors office a couple of days ago.  here are my most recent results:  HSV-1 was (7.01 IGG) and my HSV-2 was negative. (0.18 IGG); now i must have HSV-1 and my husband have HSV-2

[gracefromHHP]

http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm  is a terrific website with info on hsv1 for more reading.

Unless you suspect hubby had another partner during your marriage, he had hsv2 since before he met you and just never realized it.  You already know that it's as much as bad luck as anything that the virus gets transmitted since you haven't contracted it yourself. Have you two discussed if you want to take any further precautions at this point or not?

grace

[candy824]

It been a long 2 months since I found out that my husband has herpes (hsv-2). He has started on daily suppressive therapy (acyclovir) although, my husband has not had any further out breaks our sex has not been the same. A fulfilling sex life is important to both him and me, and I'm afraid we'd always feel restricted. We have sought marriage counseling.  
I’m trying to make things work, I do have some concerns. Since my husband is HSV-2 and I’m HSV1. If I perform oral sex on him without protection, will he get HSV-1? Also; if he performs oral sex on me without protection will I get HSV-2?  Anyone have any ideas about how to emotionally work through these issues and grow a greater intimacy and bond with my husband again?

I am sad. even, in the ways I am handling this situation for the past couple of months. I miss the freedom and the romance and the clarity and connectedness our relationship once had. I appreciate your input and insight.

[gracefromHHP]

Don't let the idea of just now finding out he has herpes, stand in the way of your sex life!!!!  He's had this the whole  time you were with him, it's just your mind getting in the way now.  

His having hsv2 gives him significant protection against contracting hsv1 from you ( but it doesn't work the other way around unfortunately ). You really don't have to worry about him contracting your hsv1. Now if you had an obvious cold sore present, I wouldn't perform oral on him for many reasons.

I also assume you never gave a 2nd thought to performing oral on him before this correct? If you haven't contracted hsv2 from him in 10 years together, why would you let it stand in the way now that he's taking acyclovir 400mg 2x/day to help lower your risk of contracting hsv2 all around?

grace