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how do you tell new partner you have hsv 1 gentally.
I was with my partner exclusively sine I was eighteen . I am now thirty one and have been diagnosed with hsv 1. My partner was militAry and did stray over seas. He has not been checked for it and when I got diagnosed with it he told me he accepted me and loved me not matter what. Because I forgave him when he cheated. A month after the Christmas holidays he left me saying he couldn't deal with me having herpes like he thought he could. He didn't feel that he could accept me while being afraid he may catch it. This makes me feel dirty because he was my only and took my virginity so how could I have gotten it if he was the one that cheated. I didn't. Well I dealt with him leaving and thought that my dating life is over . Severe depression and thoughts of how I feel disgusting and nasty and ruined because I have this. I met someone after while and he is great. However I haven't told him Bout my diagnosis as we have not been intimate with one another. We took our time. My new guy says he loves me. Wants to be with me and is ready to take the step. He is ready to be intimate. I feel that its time to be honest and tell him about my diagnosis. I don't know how to go about it and I'm terrified that I will lose him . He says there is nothing I can say that will change his opinion of me or stop him from being with me but I really feel like me having herpes will make him leave. He is a greT guy Nd I don't want to lose him but know I have to tell him. Please give me some advice dealing with depression since my diagnosis hasn't been easy but losing him would be a lot worse.
any further hiv testing questions need to be asked on the hiv forum. thank you!
If you had protected sexual encounter then you were safe from HIV. At this point HIV isn't an issue. It's time to move past STD's now.
That second test was taken after that encounter more than six months before. That was protected. The first test was four years before that
One was taken four years ago and second one this past April last time i had sex used protection Nd it has been more than six months ago. Close to a year since.
If the tests were taken after 3 months from your sexual encouter then yes HIV is off the table.
Thank u what about the hiv testing. Two rapid tests negative is this truly accurate and means I don't have it. Sorry just paranoid.
no dark circles don't mean serious illness.
follow up with your provider for any sleep issues you are having.
follow up with your provider for any sleep issues you are having.
Hello . I know I ask lots of questions. But I think now I'm being paranoid. But feel better asking..I have been going to work and everyone asks me why am I so pale or telling me I look tired . Have been working a lot and noticed dark circles under eyes . I am only thirty one is this normal to be this tired all the time. Sometimes I sleep good and feel great and sometimes I can't sleep and feel horrible. But there are also times I sleep two hours and feel great or sleep all night and feel horrible. Can this especially the dark circles mean serious illness? Also had tested for hiv four years ago and again this April and both were negative through an oraquick advanced rapid test. Is it safe to say tbe result were accurate and I don't have hiv? Scared again.
Thanks again. I guess I was just upset and thinking about things to much that I thought what if? I am going to have to look into talking to someone for the depression. I thought i was starting to come to grips with it and was happy with this new guy but it turned out I am right back to being depressed. when I'm at work and out keeping busy I am okay. but once I sit still and have nothing to do then I have time to think about things and that's when I have noticed the depression hits me the most. thanks again for listening
you had a + lesion culture for hsv1. no reason to think it was actually syphilis.
if you need the peace of mind then by all means test for syphilis but it's not likely you have it.
if you need the peace of mind then by all means test for syphilis but it's not likely you have it.
hello again and thanks for responding. I do have some questions regarding both herpes and syphilis and they may sound sort of silly and I may be wrong but going to ask them anyway. I have looked up information online about syphilis and it seems like some of the symptoms are similar to herpes. I noticed that with both of them you can have swollen glands. I have had two outbreaks and have had the swollen glands. could my result have been confused? Also it also said that syphilis comes in stages the tertiary stage being the last one. and that in the tertiary stage it can affect your spinal and nervous system . also like herpes it outbreaks and then Goes back in the body no longer visible. when herpes isn't visible does it go into your nervous system? And if so how come they can cure syphilis by a shot of penicillin or shots depending on how many it takes to get it all gone. but they can't do The same for herpes? plus what if like me the person is allergic to penicillin what else can they treat it with? Thanks again for responding. you have always had such patience with me and had such kindness when answering all my questions. you are truly awesome.
most of us are very low risk for syphilis. totally up to you if you want to pursue testing for it.
yes, syphilis is easily cured if detected early.
yes, syphilis is easily cured if detected early.
Hello there its me again. just wanted to ask some questions. I am having a real bad night of depression and had to meltdown in past two days. I am just curious because I have been tested for chlamydia gonorrhea herpes hiv .. and the only that came back positive is herpes. when I got tested at the health department they guy said let me see your hands and I showed him and said why? He replied then and said to see if you have any dashes due to syphilis. of course than I had no rash and when I'm on an outbreak The rash is very small and in my vaginal region not all over my palms or body. my question is can herpes result be confused with syphilis? How Long before symptoms of syphilis starT to show? I haven't had intercourse for a long period of time so ling that when I tested for hiv they theybtold me I was not in the window period for them to make me wait before testing . so i was just wondering if I had syphilis would the symptoms have started to show up already. was with the same man that gave me the herpes for a long time? Plus can syphilis be cured? The reason I'm asking this is because the ex already gave me one thing I'm having to deal with . I don't want another issue to add to the depression and hurt and anger and feeling disgusted with myself. and I don't want to pet it go if I have it either.
obviously he has issues from the sounds of things. time to mourn the end of the budding relationship and move on to someone new. Anyone who can't deal with being seen in public with you, isn't a person you want to be with!!
Oh and sorry for all the errors in typing. Doing this from a touch screen mobile phone sucks. Lol I meant to say hsv 1. Not 2 I hit the wrong button.. and also that him and I haven't spoken on bout a month.
Hello again. I just wanted to say hello and I appreciate ur advice. but to keep you updated we have not spoken invaluable month . I was confident with how I was going to tell him about my having hsv 2 but didn't get a chance too. he has not answered my calls nor text . we didn't have a fuss or fight. but he wanted to keep our relationship secret because he didn't want people to know about our twenty year age gap . we got caught having dinner together by one of our co workers and he got real embarrassed. haven't heard from him since then. I miss him terribly and am back in depression about it all over again. need to see therapist before it gets worse. any advice please? And once again thanks for listening.
I buy it off of amazon. You can google to look for the cheapest price. it should be refrigerated but it's ok if you are going away for a few days to throw some in your bag and take with you and not keep it cold. The bacteria lasts longer if it's kept cold. No side effects to it. If your gyn is up on the latest studies then they'd be fine with you taking it Plenty of studies on pubmed on the probiotic strains in it and their effectiveness on women with uti's and vaginitis issues. It's been available for years outside of the US under the name uric cap 5.
bactrim doesn't work for bv.
bactrim doesn't work for bv.
Okay I have another question. I appreciate your patience with me. You mentioned fem dophilis in one of your posts . Does it work? Is it safe from side affects? Where can I find it? Does it have to be stored in the fridge? And is it something that a gynecologist would recommend? Also I was prescribed bactrim by my doctor during my last ob. I had gotten that g I virus from Tue nursing home where I work. The outbreak was on my butt when it occured. She thought I might have had a secondary infection. I didn't use the medicine. They healed. I kept them very clean and dry. I still have the medicine would it be good to use it to treat The bv?
When I was younger I went in for a uti and the doc diagnosed me as chlamydia. I was eighteen with my ex then. No treatment. Had been recently tested and it was negative. How is that possible? I did go to another doc Nd they treAted me for a uti and it went away.
Was just tested for herpes chlamidia gonnorhea hiv the only thing positive was herpes. Just worried because new partner is wanting to take that step . I was just wanting to make sure I was prepared to have the talk and for his response.
bv can be a booger to get rid of :( I had it almost 4 years non-stop myself at one point :( Keep going back monthly as needed for proper testing for bv and treatment to try to get it gone.
herpes doesn't make bv "worse" or linger longer. Bv can make you more susceptible for std's in general, including herpes. bv is an alteration in your vaginal ph that allows bacteria to overgrow and takes away your natural "good" flora that helps to protect you from std's.
if you've never had gonorrhea or chlamydia, odds are you don't have pid. they are the 2 most common causes of it.
herpes doesn't make bv "worse" or linger longer. Bv can make you more susceptible for std's in general, including herpes. bv is an alteration in your vaginal ph that allows bacteria to overgrow and takes away your natural "good" flora that helps to protect you from std's.
if you've never had gonorrhea or chlamydia, odds are you don't have pid. they are the 2 most common causes of it.
Meant pid in last post by the way. Another question is can the bv be hard to get rid of because of the herpes? Caused from the herpes or a part of the herpes.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
