idk what is going on so frustrating.

About a month ago I had unprotected sex with a girl I met through friends. I actually had sex with her with a condom and then we had sex again and I didn't have another condom so we went unprotected. The next day I woke up and told my friend I had sex with her and he said to me "I hope you wore a condom" I asked him why and he just said "oh she sleeps around" nothing specific not that she had an std or anything. I am somewhat of a hypochondriac so I starting examining myself from then on out every minute possible throughout the day. I remember within him asking him if I wore a condom I started feeling symptoms. The next day I woke up and it almost felt like it was burning to pee so instantly I was like oh my god this isn't happening. I immediately contacted her and she took it very personally and reassured me she had nothing and would never have unprotected sex with me if she had something and would hope I wouldn't do it either with her. From then on out I was extrememly worried to the point where the anxiety consumed my life I couldn't think or do anything else - I live in the gym it has always been my life I couldn't even get myself to the gym I was so scared. Next couple days I started noticing dry flakey skin on foreskin and the tip of my penis then it turned into like dry scaley skin on the shaft too, it was very irritated and was stinging and burning in my clothes and I immediately lost my mind and told my mom. She took me to a clinic where they said "they saw nothing" and tested me for chlamydia and gonnorhea (Gonorrhea) both negative. I went to a local hospital the next day and the doctor diagnosed me with a fungal infection and gave me nystatin cream and 2 diflucan pills. I tookt the antibiotics and used the cream very liberally. The pain mostly went away except for a little irritation - when I put the cream on the skin wasn't dry it just got very sticky. I stopped using the nystatin cream because it was thinning my skin and making it extremely wrinkly - I went to my family doctor who said she saw absolutely nothing and gave me some lotion she had in her office and sent me on my way obviously did nothing for me. I went to another clinic and demanded a blood test for herpes syphalis and hiv the herpes test was an igg test. The people at that clinic also said they saw nothing even tho the skin was scaley and irritated and I myself know this because it is my body and see changed and my skin was always soft and not irritated dry looking. I got the results back negative for herpes syphalis and hiv. So now I'm stuck with dry irritated skin all over my penis that gets irritated in clothes - have fordyce spots on my shaft always have they seem to get super irritated from the dry flakey skin. You can almost see lines on the shaft in the front where the scales are from the skin being so dry and when I sit and it folds up more it creates lines. The head gets very red and blotchy looking. When I pee when I am finishing it doesn't come all the way out it dribbles and when I "shake" it goes everywhere and seems to leak out of me for a while afterwards - same goes if I masturbate the I don't ejaculate as much as usual and it leaks out of me afterwards also and dries up on my urethra. Also when I masturbate the skin seems to get more irritated and then eventually goes down. I want my life back I can't take another minute of this - this is everyday of my life for the past month almost. Is it possible I have some type of infection on the inside effecting the outside or maybe allergic reaction to nystatin cream and antibiotics? I just want this over with I am severely depressed want my life back:( scheduled a urology appt

[cbenj]

Anyone help me please? I get no enjoyment out of life anymore I was always such a happy person - my parents don't know what to do and are so upset for me because of how much this consumes me. I just wanna know what is wrong or a cure for what is happening because I can barely function. I'm 20 yrs old by the way.

[gracefromHHP]

please be patient since we are all volunteers here. our read before posting post which better explains this forum is located under the important announcements tab on the forum.

really no reason to think you have a std going on.

your anxiety is most of the issue. I recommend putting the lil guy away and not looking at him for the  next few weeks other than to aim when urinating.  you are seeing providers who aren't really seeing a lot wrong and at this point probably the skin just needs some time to heal. Try something as simple as powdering your genital area each morning before dressing to decrease irritation and absorb excess moisture. powder up a little more before the gym too :)

grace

[cbenj]

I'm sorry I just am really having the worst month of my life. I'm not as social anymore and I'm constantly worrying and wondering why I'm like this. I've always had regular skin on my penis I've never ever had to deal with dry skin or anything, it almost like gets flaky on the shaft and the tip gets scaly and dry. The skin gets so dry to the point it almost like sticks together. I just wanna feel normal again:( I've always been an athlete and I'm so terrified ill never be able to play basketball again or like do anything its a constant struggle now I've always had super high self confidence and gotten along with girls so easily now I can't even look at girls. I have a urologist appt set up monday at 2 15 I just wanna know what is wrong and fix it that's all I care about at this point so I can go on with my life and get enjoyment.

[cbenj]

I feel like this is going to be on going for the rest of my life is it possible for this to just never stop all of these symptoms and spell me for the rest of my with dry scaley irritated ugly skin that is so uncomfortable and stressful all day? I'm so lost idk how this happened to me I'm always so careful its so unfair all my friends keep asking me what's wrong with me and why I always am so quiet in school or if I'm out. I avoid social gatherings now because of how stressed out and depressed I am, its extremely hard to get out of bed and my grades are slipping. I go to a local college and live at home as of now, I was planning on moving out sometime soon but that is completely out of the picture now with this stress I am absolutlely terrified my family is the only thing that makes me feel better I want my life back:(

[cbenj]

I feel like this is going to be on going for the rest of my life is it possible for this to just never stop all of these symptoms and spell me for the rest of my with dry scaley irritated ugly skin that is so uncomfortable and stressful all day? I'm so lost idk how this happened to me I'm always so careful its so unfair all my friends keep asking me what's wrong with me and why I always am so quiet in school or if I'm out. I avoid social gatherings now because of how stressed out and depressed I am, its extremely hard to get out of bed and my grades are slipping. I go to a local college and live at home as of now, I was planning on moving out sometime soon but that is completely out of the picture now with this stress I am absolutlely terrified my family is the only thing that makes me feel better I want my life back:(

[gracefromHHP]

urologists are more for "plumbing " problems than rashes in the genital area.

perhaps it's time to talk to someone about the way you are feeling?  you've allowed a simple fungal infection to cause you to become depressed - those are feelings you should work on so that it doesn't become a pattern in your life and cause you bigger problems in the future.

[cbenj]

No but the thing is the doctor that diagnosed the fungal infection only used one of those lights u put on the penis and turn the lights off to diagnose it and said "it looks fungal". I have dry easy irritated scaley looking skin not only that when I urinate now it doesn't all come out at the end it leaks and drips more and is always a pain I've never had these worries ever in my life. I am uncomfortable and so self conscious and my self esteem and confidence is completely down the drain, I no longer want to date or meet a new girl because of this. This is not in my head I know it has consumed me for a month now and it probably contributes to everything. Is it possible for the mind to give u symptoms if u worry this much over something? Idk what to think I'm so scared I have herpes or something.

[cbenj]

Honestly what else could it be I just wanna be my old self again I'm so mad at this girl. I don't deserve this one mistake and its ******* my life up permanently. I have no drive or will to do anything now beyond depressed over this. Full of guilt and regret I would pay infinite amounts of money for a time machine.

[gracefromHHP]

this was not the big mistake you are thinking it is.

follow up on your symptoms as needed with medical providers.

talk to a professional about the way you feel - it's worth it!!

[cbenj]

If its not the big mistake I think then why am I not myself down there? Why when I wake up and go pee its sometimes in 2 different streams and then goes to one but sprays everywhere and at the end it leaks out and I can't shake it bc it also goes everywhere? The skin s dry - looks irritated, feels irritated, isn't smooth like it was before. I can't take this I hate waking up every morning like this.

[cbenj]

Also I've always had fordyce spots on the shaft of my penis but I've noticed rhe ones on the right side look a lot worse and almost irritated. Could this be from me examining myself so much and touching myself looking for stuff and I've been using lotrimin jock itch spray too on the area maybe this is irritating them? Idk the stress is killing me I try to get it out of my mind but its just so hard cause its always there and I'm always looking down there and touching probably irritating myself even worse.

[gracefromHHP]

your urine stream looking different to you has nothing to do with a std dear.

[cbenj]

Do you think this is some type of infection I've got on the inside effecting the outside making everything irritated?

[cbenj]

Do you think this is some type of infection I've got on the inside effecting the outside making everything irritated?

[cbenj]

Also my mom bought me some lotrimin jock itch spray thinking it would make t feel better and I tried it and I think that irritated me worse and made the skin really irritated. Is that possible using the jock itch spray cause honestly I don't think I ever had a yeast infection. My dad was in my room and saw the lotrimin spray and said "oh god you're not using this are you?" And I told him I did for a little while like a week or so and he said "that'll dry the **** out of your skin and irritate the hell out of it especially if you don't have a fungus down there" so I think I made everything worse.

[gracefromHHP]

go and be seen and follow up on this. really not too much more I can help you with.

[cbenj]

I went to the urologist today. He took a urine sample and prescribed me hydrocortisone cream 2.5 percent for skin inflammation and irritation and that's it.

[Virtualguy]

I suggest you take a chill pill to reduce your anxiety, stop putting medicine on your penis and stop masturbating long enough to let your penis recover. You're probably so freaked out, you're over washing your penis in the shower, washing away all the natural skin oils. Get a grip dude, or it might fall off. The cortisone cream will definitely help. Stop using it when the symptoms go away. But, really, give it a rest.

[cbenj]

I appreciate the time you took to post a comment and I know I've been stressing about this every second of the day nonstop for a month. But i have these pains almost like electric type nerve pains in my thighs and legs all over just overall itchy and my penis is so senstive especially when I walk against my clothes feels like sandpaper, the skin is different looks irritated and when I get hard the fordyce spots that I've always had are so noticeable and stick out more and they were going away before this **** happened to me. Is this all psychosomatic Is this what you're telling me and its my anxiety and worry playing tricks on me and my nervous system? Because I was seriously considering a biopsy soon. I can't take this I just want a diagnosis.

[cbenj]

:(:(

[cbenj]

The fordyce I've always had under my penis look so bad idk if I should think its fordyce now or like little warts or herpes bumps. They're very irritated feeling they almost sting and are very dry almost like flake. The urologist said "those are hair follicles" but I told them they never looked that bad or noticeable - could the skin just be so irritated? Idk what to think I want this over like I'm always in pain nd severely uncomfortable it is ruining my life and everyday my mood is depressed and worried. I just wanna look and feel normal again how long can this possibly go on. Its been a month straight now of this non stop bs.

[gracefromHHP]

yes the skin can be that irritated.

if you are depressed over this, seek out counseling to help you deal with it better.

unless you get a + herpes test, nothing else we can really help you with at this point. you were seen, told what was going on and given treatment. give it a chance to work :)

grace

[cbenj]

If I wasn't In pain and uncomfortable and looked funky down there I wouldn't care. But the fact Is its been over a month straight this is getting ridiculous a person shouldn't live like this. Hydrocortisone made it worse my body doesn't react well to those type of creams so I'm going to not put anything on it at all and see what happens. Praying to go this just goes away so I can havve my life back.

[cbenj]

I'm in so much pain not going to put up with this much longer. Where can I go that costs a lot of money idc how much it costs so they can ******* give me a diagnosis and tell me what is wrong with me these doctors are all morons they don't care how u feel bc its not them or one of their own sons in the situation ******* ********

[cbenj]

Biopsy?

[gracefromHHP]

return to be seen again if the topical steroids are making this worse.

[cbenj]

Its not going away I wake up every morning same ********. I've always had great sex drive so I can't help getting morning wood and erections at night and I think it makes it worse bc I haven't been masterbating (masturbating) and I think in my sleep I've been pushing my penis up against the bed not knowingly. I used to masterbate like twice a day and I've had plenty of sex in my life never had anything like this ever - it is ruining me I can't live like this.

[cbenj]

I think my parents are taking me to dupont hospital I need a reputable doctor none of these doctors know what they're talking about and they don't listen its really embarassing how some doctors act they don't deserve to be doctors the way they act and how they just brush ppl off and don't care. I thought the medical field was better then this until I had my first real medical problem except for 2 sports hernias. Absolutely horrible.

[gracefromHHP]

I'm sure the dermatologists at dupont can figure this out. they are tops in their field!

[cbenj]

Good because I'm so uncomfortable in a lot of pain it disrupts my dad so much I can't function like I used to I'm a very athletic person and taking away my movement and even the ability to go for a jog or play basketball is so terrifying to me. Honestly Grace I would really appreciate what u believe is going on if you don't have any idea its fine I just want an opinion - skin feels like its burning, really irritated drier than normal skin looks like its changed, really sensitive to clothing walking any movement and shaving, it gets really red and irritated throughout the day when I walk around, the inside of my thighs are irritated when I walk (idk if they got burned from lotrimin spray cause I didn't need it but was using it) the head and the urethra look really irritated and splotchy type skin, I feel the nerve pain all the way down my legs sometimes to my feet, and when I urinate the urine comes out in double streams sometimes or comes out regular but is weird almost painful feeling sometimes sometimes feels like it hurts in my bladder and it never comes all the way out anymore it trickles out in droplets and continuously leaks unless I wipe it off same goes if I masterbate which I haven't been but when I do semen leaks out of me for a while after just like the urine and I don't ejaculate as much as I used to it and its really clumpy and a different texture. I think that pretty much covers it ha ha. Yeah I'm a mess - falling apart. Could this be from all the unneeded medicine like the diflucan the nystatin the lotrimin jock itch spray and the hydrocortison (which made it so much worse it like burnt my skin) bc I know it all goes to your bloodstream. Or could it be a prostate problem? Std not detected? I just want your opinion from what I've read about what you say on other peoples posts you seem very knowledgable and a very caring sympathetic person who wants to help ppl but give them an honest opinion at the same time. Thank you so much for listening to me whine everyday I've never been through anything like this:(

[cbenj]

Today it almost felt like I was a burn victim below the waist that's how painful it was dull to sharp pains all day. At nighttime it seems to not be nearly as painful and dulls down completely but it always comes back. I'm just dumbfounded its been like 6 weeks maybe 7 of nonstop symptoms and pain like I've been describing I'm just really scared I'm only 20 nevr thought I'd be in this position. My dad thinks it was coincidental that I had sex right before this all hapened and it has nothing to do with the sex and that its something wrong on the inside or something else. Idk I was maybe thinking prostate? Idk what to think anymore

[cbenj]

...

[cbenj]

Something Is so wrong I can't even masterbate I know this is tmi but this is a health board, the skin gets so red and irritated and red and hurts it doesn't even look like me anymore I can't even stand the look of it, the sebaceous cysts (fordyce) get super noticeable and u can feel them could hardly see or feel them before from all the skin irritation and dryness and burning sensation, I had to masterbate I've always had a crazy sex drive now I never do I hadn't masterbated in 2 weeks, it wasn't even pleasurable really and after I ejaculated the cum was clumpy and weird and it leaked out of my urethra 10 min after I came this never happens, the skin looks horrible beat red the head is discolored the fordyce are crazily inflamed just overall the skin everywhere is so sensitive the urethra even looks larger then before and like its infected. Wtf is wrong with me this is terrifying.

[gracefromHHP]

really nothing else I could possibly add. go and be seen and get a more thorough work up.

this is not a herpes issue.

[cbenj]

I am going go to dupont I just wanted to know what your opinion was

[cbenj]

Is there some type of like unknown std bc it seems like so many ppl have similar symptoms and no one knows what's wrong with any of them and that is the scariest part of all of this. I would rather have herpes and know what I have and have It go away and come back rather then dealing with this everyday day after day of my life its like torture - I don't wanna go out with friends or meet girls anymore I'm so uncomfortable and don't like how I look down there anymore - never had a problem down there and now all of a sudden I don't even like looking at it myself.

[pumkin444]

I have the worst symptoms of all:  I have unintentional weight loss-over 20  lbs, and extreme weight loss in my hips/buttock, and continuing.  I have been losing weight for over 2 years, slowly.  I was diagnoised with HSV-1 back in 2007.  Since then, I have taken every STD test I can think of, and the doctors have no idea why I am losing this much weight over such a long period of time, and continuing. Does anyone else have this problems and if so, please share your diagnoises with me.

[cbenj]

You have an anxiety problem its nothing to do with an std obviously if its just weight loss?

[cbenj]

You have an anxiety problem its nothing to do with an std obviously if its just weight loss?

[cbenj]

Fml

[gracefromHHP]

please do not hijack someone else's post with your own question. start your own post about it.

our rules of posting on the forum are listed under the important announcements tab on the forum. thanks!

[cbenj]

Grace, is it possible for someone to have to live the way I'm living right now for the rest of my life? Cause I can't handle this. I've never heard of anything like this its never ending - I can't live this way much longer.

[Sunny2406]

Have you tried some zinc cream, like diaper rash cream? I've used Burts Bees Baby Diaper rash cream. It's very soothing and has no harsh chemicals. I wouldn't put it on the urethra but all around your penis would be fine. Did you by any chance wash yourself with something harsh after your friend told you this girl "slept around"? Just asking.

[cbenj]

I've been using this cream I ordered off the internet its like theracream ill go get it and repost the ingredients but that night I poored mouthwash over it bc I don't sleep around like that especially unprotected and I knew I made a mistake. I feel like this can't be std related bc this happened a month and probably close to 10 days ago and I've had symptoms of this 2 days after we had sex and non stop ever since then. I really don't know what to do or think I'm so depresseð

[Sunny2406]

I'm not a health professional but I think the mouth wash may have started your problems and this should be treated as a chemical burn. I do not think you would have herpes symptoms for this long without some period of relief. Be sure to tell the doctors of the mouth wash event and try the zinc cream or plain aloe. Wish i could give you a hug. I honestly think you are going to be fine.

[cbenj]

Thank u so much for the support I'm so upset I used to be like the happiest person ever. I never thought I'd be in a situation like this ever, I just have zero hope at all. I'm a 20 year old kid I shouldn't have to go through this every morning I wake up I pray to god this would end and it never does, I'm not myself I'm always a super confident person - I've always come off as "cocky" but not in a bad way just knew how to talk to girls and be with people overall - I'm a real people person and nw with what's going on with me I'm a different person, I avoid people and am not as outgoing and I'm always irritated down there uncomfortable I feel like my body has changed. I could never get into a relationship ever like this I avoid females now, I just want my life back and my happiness. Please.

[Sunny2406]

I understand completely. Once you get this figured out and get some relief, you will bounce back. Is there any way to convince this girl to be tested so you could know her status? It might give you peace of mind.

[cbenj]

I mean she claims to have been tested I've asked her so many times she doesn't wanna talk to me anymore obviously because of me asking her these things and her feeling liek I was calling her dirty blah blah blah like most girls act. I just regret having sex with her so much it was not worth this trouble and anxiety for one night - looking back on it it makes me wanna cry because If I just didn't cave and have unprotected sex when I had protected sex right before I could ofjust called it a night but instead I let my dick trick me into doing something retarded. I'm so upset still over this and have the most regret I've ever had in my life. Once again when will this ever go away because everything I've read std symptoms don't last this long - I just want this to go away so I can get my mind off of it for good and have my life back.

[Sunny2406]

I know you want to turn back the clock. Me too. Wish life had a rewind button. But,...since it doesn't, we have to move forward the best we can. You can do it. You're right, symptoms don't last this long. Try to let that give you reassurance while you wait for your appointment. When do you go to Dupont?

[cbenj]

I'm not sure my mom was going to call and get me in there asap. This is all so scary how life can turn into this so fast. Sex doesn't even seem worht it to me anymore at this point - I wish I was a virgin ha. I keep feeling like I'm gonna feel like this forever and itrs never gonna end:/

[gracefromHHP]

you also need to deal with your anxiety/depression from this too. look around for a professional to talk to while you wait for your appointment.

[cbenj]

I think its pretty reasonable to be depressed over a situation like this. I still go to school and the gym and stuff I'm just unhappy and scared I want this to be over I don't understand what's going on.

[cbenj]

:(:(

[cbenj]

WeLl turns out dupont only accepts 17annd under, I have a neurologist appt doctor seems to think its nerve related.....

[cbenj]

Ugh