Thanks petal,that was really helpful
The lap dance clearly did not put you at risk for genital herpes.
As to oral herpes (HSV1), it's predominantly transmitted through passionate kissing in adults. HSV2 is very uncommon orally.
This is a very low risk for herpes (assuming she even had it). Quite honestly, you could already have it and not know; over 1/2 the adult population has oral herpes, and many of us get it in childhood from the big smooch from Auntie.
You can learn more about oral herpes here:
http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm
Thanks ..but isn't HSV 1 and 2 spread through kiss? Thanks
The chances of you catching anything from such contact is slim to none. If you dont have any symptoms i wouldn't worry about it at all. If anything comes up go see a doctor but based on the situation i wouldnt worry.