Start with the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com. It's free and will give you the basics about genital herpes.
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Sounds like you missed Herpes 101 class. You have a lot of reading to do if you think you can pass it by "touching" someone or drinking out of the same cup. You can start on this website. There is plenty of information on this site alone to get you up to speed.
There are herpes dating sites out there. I don't use them myself. But Google is your friend.
i so scared to give it to someone.. and are there any herpes dating sites that anyone knows of that are good?