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[kgirl123]

About 6 or 7 months ago I was with my ex boyfriend who was manipulative, controlling, and a pathalogical liar. One time i got a pink raw mark on the tip of my clitoris that was very sore and hurt when I urinated, but it was not itchy. My doctor said could possibly be herpes my blood test came back undetermined. I then went to another doctor who said it did not look like herpes but just irritation, she swabbed the mark and it came back negative, however she said the results from swabs are not completely accurate. I was perscribed pills to treat for herpes by the first doctor, but the mark just seemed to go away on its own. After that my ex claimed he had been diagnosed with herpes and said he had a sore but when I saw him a few days later and it was gone. Since then I have not had another mark or felt any of the symptoms recurr, so I felt that I was fine. I now have a new boyfriend and we have been sexually active for about 3 months. Before we got together I got tested because I had a bladder infection, and the results came back fine, but the clinic could not test for herpes because they only could if sores were present. But just a week ago my boyfriend noticed a red mark on his lower stomach between his penis and bellybutton. Today I noticed something that looked the same on his butt cheek. I did not get a good look at it but they look like large singular red circles with a kind of ring around the outside. I do not know if it is hurting or bothering him but he has not complained about them much or showed concern. And there is nothing on his penis. It looks nothing like the mark I had before and I do not have any symptoms currently. What could this be? I am not sure if I should bring it to his attention and cause him to worry too.

[gracefromHHP]

You definitely need to repeat your herpes igg blood test again. It sounds like your first one was taken way too early and never repeated?

Your current partner needs to go and be seen and get his own symptoms checked out. if he hasn't had a full std screening done lately, he should get that done too.

grace

[kgirl123]

thanks for commenting. i have an appt. in 2 days but i dont think they do blood tests at this clinic so im going to make another one, i just need to talk to a doctor asap.
i really do not think that the mark i had before was herpes at all, i think it was just germs that got into the skin and irritated it. and if he caught herpes from me, why would it take 3 months for an outbreak to occurr when it typically takes only a few days. whats even more confusing is that probably a month and a half ago or so, i was shaving very regularly and got what i thought was ingrown hairs or an infection up near the top of my public hair. it happenned right after shaving and there was nothing there before, but right after there was a mound under the skin and it did scab over (which pretty much all cuts and sores do though) i'm now all of a sudden thinking that this could be herpes but i have never gotten it before, and i dont think it can move from the clitoris to the public hair the next outbreak, AND i have no idea who i could have caught it from in that case. it makes no sense

[perplexedcat]

Yes, have him get it checked. When my hubby first had an outbreak it was just 2 small red spots. Since we waited for marriage to have sex and I know he only had 4 sexual partners in his life I figured it was ingrown hair or something (especially since I got him started on some razor maintenance down there!).

However, a week or 2 later it was more and they had that tell-tale whitish top to them and we knew it was something.

I've never had more than 2 tiny (and I mean TINY) pimples (although they did itch) that went away w/i days. A friend of mine knows how careful I am and insisted it was nothing. Well, We both tested positive. So, the only sure way to know is to get your blood tested.