telling a new partner the risk of them contracting genital hsv-1 from sex with me?

hi there, this is another question about genital hsv-1.  ive had genital hsv-1 for two years and have no real outbreak besides my initial one. i am not on any meds for it at the moment.  i have a new partner ive been seeing for a bit. i told him about my genital hsv-1 and although he was a bit taken aback at first he was and is very understanding..all weve done is mutual masturbation..no oral at all. lately there has been some talk of us having intercourse..which is a bit of a big deal for me because im a virgin.  im also nervous because ill have to explain to him that just because he uses a condom doesnt mean he is 100% protected..when i told him i had genital hsv-1 this didnt come up because we werent going to be having sex at the time.  but now that i feel that we might..ive got to tell him. i was wondering if someone could give me some insight on the true risk of this and how concerned he should be? obviously we would use a condom and if i noticed any symptoms on myself i wouldnt allow anything to happen..but besides that..? should i maybe get a prescip. for valtrex or something to reduce his risk? thanks very much.

[gracefromHHP]

has he been tested yet to know his own status? that's your next step. also if he's not a virgin, he should get a full std screening done too to know his full status.

have you had your gardasil shots to help protect you from hpv too?

the risk of you transmitting your hsv1 to him is very small. it's only active about 3% of days which comes out to less than a dozen days out of the year that it's active. the odds of you having sex on one of those days is very low. we don't recommend suppressive therapy for hsv1 since it's a lot of money and effort for little return ( plus we don't have studies to even show that it's effective in reducing transmission of hsv1 ).  typically just avoiding sex when you have anything going on genitally is all it takes. if your partner tests + for hsv1 on his igg blood test, the risk of transmission is almost nil.  

grace