unprotected sex 4 days ago... pls help

[neva6960]

I am male and in my late 20s. I had unprotected sex with a girl 4 days ago. Prior to that no sex of any kind in more than a year. 2 days after having sex, I began to feel tingling in my groin area and also in my legs. This feeling is akin to razor burn or if you had a strong mint/menthol cream rubbed everywhere down there. My appetite has decreased and although I don't think I have a fever, I do feel somewhat fatigued and have general malaise. The last 2 days my groin lymph nodes have been swelling up and there's some general discomfort down there. Today I had a few pains in my lower back (by the 2 kidneys) but they went away.

I have not seen any lesions/blisters at this point and so far urination is unaccompanied by pain or discharge.

I read online that these are consistent with herpes and needlessly to say I am worried. Thanks for your help.

[neva6960]

so far the spots are without pain or itchiness. will wait and see tomorrow morning.

thanks grace

[gracefromHHP]

just red spots usually aren't due to herpes.

your regular provider is fine for being seen at, no need for a specialist for this.

[neva6960]

grace, I think I am starting to see some red spots on my penis. Should I go to a urologist, derm, or some other doctor?

Thanks

[neva6960]

Thank you grace

[gracefromHHP]

typically symptoms occur within 2-20 days after the encounter.

follow up on all the testing mention to properly cover your bases from this encounter.

[neva6960]

Is it pretty safe to say that I am out of the woods if no lesions after three months?

Do lesions usually appear after a few weeks or only a few days?

Thanks grace

[gracefromHHP]

since you had unprotected sex, you can follow up with proper testing at the proper times. you can test for chlamydia, gonorrhea and ngu anytime after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. herpes, hiv and hepatitis after 3 months.

should you get any obvious lesions before the 3 month mark, be seen for a proper exam.

grace