what are the risks

[franchise701]

I recently started dating a girl, right about the time we were to have sexual intercourse, she tells me me she has genital herpes. So I started panicking because I had just performed oral sex. She never had it on her lip and also says its minor. Now what are the chances of catching it? and what about oral sex? wether its me or her?
I am totally freaking out and as much as i like this girl, I find myself thinking about it too much and I loose my erection!
What should I do?

[petal130]

Genital HSV2 doesn't "like" the oral area. Only 3% of all oral herpes infections are caused by the HSV2 virus, and even then, most people never have another outbreak.

1 in 4 women have genital herpes. It's nothing more than a pesky skin condition, and if you use condoms and she takes suppressive therapy, there's a 99% chance annually that you WON'T get it.

Personally, if you like this girl, don't let herpes send you packing. Herpes is easy compared to other stuff that makes relationships go south. Don't let herpes define her.

Here are odds based on female to male transmission of genital herpes.

FEMALE TO MALE RATE OF TRANSMISSION (HSV2 ONLY STATS IS NOT APPLICABLE FOR HSV1)

If you have 100 couples where the female has HSV2 but not the male (these figures are over a year) the odds of female to male transmission are, if you do nothing other than avoid sex during an outbreak, 4 men out of a 100 will get herpes in a year, or 4%. If you do go on a suppressive therapy then it drops to 2 men out of a 100 in a year, or 2%. And if you use suppressive and a condom the chances are 1 man out of a 100 will get herpes in one year or 1%.

The Valtrex and transmission study stats are based on having sex 2 times/week.

[franchise701]

Hi thx for your help!

[singlenana]

What is the difference between type one and two?  I was just told that I tested positive for HSV.  Is it a blood test to tell if its type one or two?