6 and no cancer! I did have the warts that were difficult to remove and many of them. Only liquid nitrogen did the trick and I had at least 3-4 recurrence over the years. That resulted in not scars per se, but definitely patterns of pockmarked skin. The worst one is the size of a quarter, smooth,white and right on top of the vulva
! So there is no escaping it! Needless to say none of it attractive and disclosure is pretty much a must! I have not had an outbreak in the last 15-18 years.( Actually many false alarms as there are other skin lesions that resemble the warts!) Because of the initial recurrences, I felt that I must have contracted a rather hardy virus! (At the time I was told I would have this virus for life in a dormant stage and could easily infect those with compromised immune systems such as mine! And that even if plaster of Paris were to be used as a barrier on the penis
, transmission was still possible! ). I wish I felt more confident in saying I have not knowingly passed it on to anyone else just because of no reporting of it to me...as we know men are silent carriers and the virus can take any amount of time to appear. So I truthfully cannot claim that.
Can anyone suggest a non-alarmist, FACTUAL approach to disclosure?
ie the actual dialogue? I would be most appreciative!
Experts no longer believe that HPV is a permanent infection. Studies show that most people clear the virus in 8-24 months. The fact that you haven't had warts in almost 2 decades is a strong indicator that you are cured.
My guess is the marks are probably more noticible to you than a partner, but if you feel you must disclose before getting intimate, then calmly explain that you had some warts 20 years ago, and while now cured, have some scars from the treatment. This doesn't have to be a big deal.