Chance of contracting HPV thru safe sex?

[pixyish]

Hello!  I have many a question regarding HPV.

My boyfriend and I are in a pretty open relationship and recently he has developed an attraction to a friend of mine who has HPV (genital warts).  This is absolutely no problem for me, but I would like to know what type of sexual acts are safe for them to partake in since he and I have tested negative for all STDs and absolutely want to keep it that way.

What are the odds of him contracting HPV with use of a condom during penile-vaginal intercourse?  I've heard it's still possible because contact of the skin occurs in the areas that the condom does not cover.  Can this potential way of contracting the virus still happen if no outbreak is present?   Is it also possible to contract the HPV virus in one's mouth or hands if they come in contact with that particular area?

I'm thinking that given the situation, the safest way would be to avoid penetration and cunnilingus entirely, but I want to be fully informed before-hand just in case.  

[Mishy_88]

the answer is APSOLUTELY NOT! NO SEX between ur friend and ur guy and i suggest that if ur both clean u shud stick with eachother. it is very good and rare to find someone thats 'clean' but if u insist on an open relationship be prepared for the consequences because there will be a time wen he or maybe even u might break the rules. also keep in mind that many people with hpv don't even have symptoms so i don't think with ur 'open relationship' u two will stay 'clean' for long. sorry if i may have offended u but there is no sugar coating these issues.

[pixyish]

Oh don't worry, I'm not offended.  When I say "open" relationship I don't necessarily mean we cheat on each other, as is usually the case, and I totally agree with you about there being consequences to such relationships.  

We've never strayed or done anything risky, ever.  This is the only particular situation where I could see something -maybe- happening, if certain circumstances weren't in the way. Since it has actually come up, where they seem to be attracted to each other, I just wanted to know what specifically was safe and what wasn't, even if only out of curiosity.  You'll notice I said I thought the safest way would be avoid the risky acts entirely and I thank you for reassuring that notion.  He's a good, smart, man and would never do anything to put he or I in harm's way, ever, which is why I'm here learnin' up on it so we can both know what to avoid in order to be 100% safe.  

Thanks again!

[Mishy_88]

you're welcome and i hope that both of you have a healthy,happy and caring relationship! <3