Yup, thanks a lot. Sucks with no way to determine the specifics... especially with something that is apparently common...
Ok... I'm not an expert, but I can refer you to the CDC's website. They have a great informational website on HPV. I will try to answer your questions to the best of my knowledge on all the research I've done over the past week!
1. There is no test for men for high-risk HPV, which is the type that causes cervical cancer. Men can be carriers for high-risk HPV without displaying symptoms. If you are having symptoms of low-risk HPV, you will exerience warts/lesions in your genital or oral area. However, some people are carriers of low-risk HPV and can pass it on to others, even if they don't have any symptoms themselves.
2. Talk to your doctor about the Gardisil and they can talk to you about getting the vaccine. It is an expensive vaccination, so you'll want to determine if the benefits outweigh the cost ($120 per shot x3 shots). If you already have low-risk HPV, the vaccine will NOT get rid of the virus. Again, my advice is to talk to your doc and determine what strain of HPV you have, and if a vaccination would be of benefit.
3. I do not think you need to refrain from oral sex, as long as you have no oral symptoms of HPV. If you are having oral symptoms of HPV, you can purchase a dental dam, which is basically just a thin, flat square condom that you use to cover the woman's vagina. Then you can please her all you want while protecting both her and yourself.
4. I don't believe there is any way to for-sure know if the virus has reached undetectable levels. Most doctors say HPV testing is useless because most people have been exposed to HPV, so other than a biopsy of a wart or if a woman has an abnormal pap, they don't really do HPV testing.
I hope I was somewhat helpful!
Here's hoping that I land an opposite gender with the same outlook on life as you/your bf.. In better mood tonight, thanks for the reply though.. made me feel better as well. :) Also, main questions I was trying to determine:
1.) How do I determine if I have a high or low risk strain? or is it not possible for a guy?
2.) Should I take medication/ gardsil to try to remove/ attempt at initiating some form of anti-bioitic attack on the virus?
3.) For oral sex - strictly from a woman's response - do I need to live knowing my tongue exercising has all gone to waste.. I mean.. not bragging.. but my tongue is hugh... and I aimed to please.. .. bascially if a girl I'm seeing does not have HPV and no other STI's .. and we have protected sex.. should I still refrain from oral...?..
4.) I'm ok with cutting back on alcohol consumption... but just wondering... is there no way to determine if the virus in my body has reached below detectable levels ? or is that only in females..?..
Questions which are plaguing my brain as of late..
Awe, dizzy...I feel the same way about my hubby...how lucky we are ;)
I know how you feel. Like you, I got tested for everything on a yearly basis, always had a clean pap, and even got the Gardisil vaccine 4 years ago (which I thought would protect me from this.).
I have been in a relationship for 5 months, and I am a very sexual person... it's definitely difficult to restrict the sex. We did have sex before I knew I had HPV... and now it sucks because it's like a waiting game to see if he he gets any symptoms (he hasn't so far... fingers crossed he's one of the lucky ones who never get symptoms).
The good news is, he is a very positive person and says he loves me - no matter what, he will stick by me. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world that I have a boyfriend like that.
You will meet the right person. I'm not saying it will be easy, because love isn't easy even without HPV (or any other disease for that matter). I know a woman who had a brain tumor, her boyfriend at the time left her because he "couldn't handle it". One of my friends is dating a guy who is a survivor of testicular cancer, his gf at the time left him for the same reason. That sounds like sort of a downer, but just be glad you're not dealing with a life-threatening illness alone.
As my boyfriend says "everyone has something about them that isn't perfect, that they have to deal with on a daily basis, and they wish they didn't have to". The trick is finding someone who will love you despite your flaws, and you being open enough to love them despite theirs.