Yes, HPV is the most common STD in America. She didn't mention oral sex because it is still extremely rare although the numbers of oral related issues related to oral sex are on the rise. This is presumably due to the rise in prevalence of oral sex between partners and the relative number or partners people have as religious morals change over time. It is true that often people may have HPV and never know it. If a man has high-risk HPV he will exhibit no symptoms. With warts, it is possible to have the virus for warts but not manifest any and transfer the virus to others who will manifest it. I do not know the statistics for this scenario. HPV can lay dormant for years but if it does it is not statistically likely to manifest unless you have an immuno-suppressing event occur in your life such as pregnancy or HIV or cancer. trulyblessed91's found out about her HPV not because of her miscarriage,but because of her pregnancy. For someone to have HPV for 8 years and then suddenly have an outbreak is quite rare, rare enough to the point that I would be forced to question whether the person did not cheat. It does happen though so it is in no way indicative of cheating. It is not a slam dunk that cheating occurred.
Hi. I'm sorry that you are going through this. J don't have much experience with hpv. But when my doctor explained it to me she stressed that hpv is the most common STD in Americans and its cause by having intercourse. She didn't mention oral sex. It might be possible but the chances are very slim. However, it can lay dormant for years. Sometimes a person may not even know they have it. The only reason I found out I had it was bc I had a miscarriage and it caused the hpv to become active...that's what my doctor told me. My cousin has been married for 8 years and lost her virginity to her husband and just found out she had it. He did not cheat.
I'm really sorry. I want to reiterate that it is possible that he acquired HPV a long time ago, possibly before meeting you, and it recently activated, but it is pretty rare. And it is also unlikely he received HPV from receptive oral sex. My understanding of the virus is that that isn't how it works. Do see what the experts say, but if he has genital HPV, it is almost a certainty he got it from intercourse at some point.
Thanks. That was what I feared. I believe if the HPV came from 2003 on his business trip it wasn't from receiving oral sex, but from actual intercourse. I also believe it was most likely from another incident closer to my positive test in 2008 since the virus was clear by 2009. I suspect a couple different girls during that time period so it would make better sense, he is just so adamant it could only be from the 2003 oral sex. I'll post on the expert forum, too. Thanks again.
Hi there... first and foremost- wow. That sounds like an impossibly hard situation to be in, and I'm really sorry you're going through it. Not even because of the HPV issues related to it, but because some of that just seems devastating. Now, I'll be happy to let you know what I can, but I don't want to go so far as to accuse anyone of anything. I'll just tell you the possibilities as I understand them.
In my estimation, you're pretty knowledgeable of HPV. Although it's theoretically possible, I would think it very unlikely that he got HPV from a woman from whom he received oral sex who also had intercourse with a guy just prior. If she ONLY had intercourse with her other coworker and ONLY had oral with your husband, than the likelihood of transmission is practically zero. Someone couldn't contract HPV somewhere on their body only to have it contagious on another part of their body a few seconds later. I don't think any virus does that.
It is altogether possible that the virus was dormant in your husband from a previously acquired infection (even before the woman he received oral sex from). Still, you're right. That is a long time for HPV to remain dormant before showing up. Typically, the body clears the virus in less than two years. I've read in the Experts' Forum that it IS possible though. But I would guess that if that was the case, his HPV would be from a previous encounter and not the one in 2003.
Long story short:
Could your husband have contracted HPV from that woman who also just had sex with someone else- yes, theoretically. But oral based HPV is very uncommon, and I don't even know if oral to genital transmission is possible.
Could your husband have had a dormant HPV infection that showed up later- yes. It happens. It's rare, but it happens.
Would your husband have had to have intercourse to acquire genital-based HPV- yes, almost definitely.
Unfortunately there are no easy answers here. I think your best course of action would be to sit down with your husband and ask him if there was another indiscretion. Given his past, I wouldn't blame you to not trust him if he were to deny it, but you are in a better position to make that judgment. It's plausible that he had an old infection show up later, but I would seriously doubt it was from the episode you described with the girl and two men.